Ode to joy

Chapter 223

Andy couldn't help but think of his worries and annoyance a few hours ago, and couldn't help laughing. The answer is already here, so there is no need to ask more.She was finally willing to slip into Bao Yifan's arms, "I don't have Xiaofan's coquettishness, nor Xiaoqu's coquettishness, I don't have any sexy at all, why do you love me?"

"After meeting you, everyone else is a vulgar fan. Go to sleep... what else are you doing?"

"I booked the ticket, and you call a driver to drive me back."

"Andy, you suddenly want to see me...haha, after driving so far..."

"What are you laughing at, don't laugh."

"I'm so happy. Every time I miss you, I want to fly to see you, but I'm always afraid that you will sneer at me and say that I don't do serious things. Well, this is a good start for you."

"Tomorrow, think of a way to prevent him from appearing."

"Let him be spared. Tomorrow we will have a big day, and we will not be angry with outsiders."

Andy also wants to say, but Bao Yifan is very charming.She just lost her voice.So it is taken as the default.She could only hum a few times afterwards.

▼ mud puddle
If we talked to a stranger 2
In the previous article, I mentioned the factors that formed Xiaoxie’s psychology, and it suddenly occurred to me that I actually missed another aspect.his job.

As a criminal policeman, whether it is the homicide team, serious case rent, or anti-narcotics team, in short, he usually faces desperadoes, and what he hears and sees is the negative reality of society. In other words, he has to face the dark side of society for a long time. It will deepen doubts about human nature.Nietzsche said: Those who stare at the abyss for a long time may also be looked back by the abyss.

As for the destructive power that Xiao Xie may be able to achieve, let me just say that, not to mention China, a country where law enforcement is seriously unqualified, even in so-called democratic Western countries, domestic violence by the police is very difficult to deal with.On the one hand, there is a strange woman who is not related to each other, and on the other hand, there are life and death brothers who lick blood together. Psychologically, who do you think you will be more inclined to.What's more, no matter which country you are in, law enforcement is synonymous with POWER.

Whether it's Andy, Cricket, or Fan Xiaomei, what they can do is to establish a good relationship with the law enforcement agencies as much as possible, try to avoid trouble from them, and even get some help.But they are all civilians, not officials, and they are far from having the power to order people in the six doors, especially against their own people.

Naibao is Guan Guan's biological mother, and we are Guan Guan's godmothers. The real mothers want to train their daughters, and the godmothers stand aside watching anxiously, knowing that the road ahead will be bumpy, and our good daughter will suffer.

In Xie Guan's rivalry, we saw a great inequality.Xiao Xie didn't put much ink on it. In the layers of backs, Guan Guan was shown an image selected by himself; Guan Guan, a good baby, was like an open book, which could be seen at a glance.

Xiao Xie has a comprehensive understanding of what kind of person Guan Guan is. He chooses Guan Guan, even if he has true feelings—knowing that Guan Guan has a crush on others, but still persistently pursuing him. I believe Xiao Xie really likes Guan Guan to a certain extent—— But that is also the result of double-layer screening of rationality and subconsciousness: for many years, Xiao Xie may not be clearly aware of it. After self-psychological hints, it is impossible for him to fall in love with someone who makes him uneasy. Uncontrollable woman.

In CSILV, there is a model S-shaped royal sister, Mrs. Heather, who said something that I fully agree with: a woman can give her beloved man: money, time, body, emotion and even heart, but forever and ever Cannot yield POWRE.Here, I guess control is an appropriate paraphrase.Crickets have this characteristic.

On the surface, Guan Guan seems to be completely opposite to this kind of temperament, but I think Xiao Xie still underestimates Guan Guan.Although Guan Guan lacks self-confidence because of not being beautiful enough, and when facing Xiao Xie's love, it triggers a feeling similar to the kindness of knowing you, but I am still optimistic about the little girl's EQ and the happiness brought by a happy family. Strong mental and psychological condition.

There is a kind of person who is very docile most of the time - as long as you don't touch her/his bottom line, he/she is probably a person who only loses his temper three or five times in his/her life, but once it happens, nine cows can't be dragged back.

Some students said that they hope that Xiao Xie can untie his knots and gain happiness under his open-mindedness and tenderness.I hope it is good. I claim to be calm and selfish enough, so I hope Xiao Xie will be good. After all, people have not done any bad things. We can't judge others by reasoning and imagination. Wouldn't that work? There is no need for it.

Well, let's discuss the issue of love first.Just like boys, most of them have the wish of fighting swords and fighting with each other, and finally embrace the beauty; most of the girls have fantasized about saving the lost, comforting the prodigal son, and finally getting married.

Because the maternal gene brought about by women's nature to bear and reproduce offspring is more of a deformed education for thousands of years: women should be kind, affectionate, docile, and maternal, with a temperament of tolerance and generosity.On the contrary, emotions and abilities such as selfishness, cruelty, rationality, independence, lust, and fearlessness are all denied and criticized, and should not appear in women.

If there is a problem in a man's family, it is a manly man, and it is inevitable that his wife will be unvirtuous and his son will be unfilial.If there is a problem in a woman's family, it becomes the original sin - and this is also the biggest reason why victims of domestic violence suffer silently and are unwilling to resist.

In addition, in the traditional collective consciousness psychology, men should be loyal to the court and women should be loyal to the family, so we don’t have to be surprised that there are loyal courtiers who face tyrants and scumbags, and women who are loyal to scumbags and perverts.Sometimes, I think, what they are loyal to is not necessarily a specific person, what they are loyal to is the deformed belief and concept that history is authority.

Back to our question, in fact, think about it carefully, what can Guan Guan do at worst—as long as she doesn't give up on herself.

The worst outcome I can think of is to leave Haishi and return to my hometown: Xiaoxie can stretch his hands very long in his one-acre three-point land, but when he returns to Guanguan's hometown, it is a strong dragon that cannot be suppressed. A local snake, with a girl from her natal family, will always have a way out.

Sometimes, Niba is a pessimistic and low-confidence person. I basically don’t believe that a mature adult can change because of so-called love—unless he/she finds the problem and wants to Change requires a major opportunity.

For example, Miss Fan.

Years of oppression made Xiaomei Fan aware of the injustice and her own weakness; and the fall of Fan's father was a turning point—a turning point in two parts:

First, the disappearance of the original leader of the Fan family has triggered a reshuffle of the entire family structure, giving Fan Xiaomei the opportunity to look at the problem from another identity - the new person in the family; The family affairs spread out under the sun, which gave Fan Xiaomei another opportunity to accept help from friends.Psychological, ideological help.In the end, Fan Xiaomei had the desire to change herself, and because of her severe situation: the stimulation of broken love, loss of wealth, and loss of dignity, she began to subjectively and proactively untie the knot.

For the time being, Xiao Xie doesn't have these conditions. He thinks that the current situation is good, his work is smooth, he can make friends well, and he seems to have another girlfriend he likes.He didn't realize at all, or subconsciously denied that there was something wrong with him, and there was no doubt that he couldn't share his disgraceful secrets with anyone, whether it was a friend or a lover.

Xiao Xie like this doesn't know that he needs help at all, even if he vaguely guessed his problem, I'm afraid he wouldn't take the risk of hurting his self-esteem to ask for help.At this moment, I actually believe that Xiao Xie is willing to treat Guan Guan kindly, hoping to have a perfect family.However, like any chronic disease, mental illness develops insidiously and has serious consequences.

As for Guan Guan’s unwavering help to Xiao Xie, I am a selfish person who believes that someone will do the decapitation business, and a coward who will not do the money-losing business—exchange a year and a half of happiness for a life and a half— Severe mental illness will not be effective in three to five years, it will be easy in ten to eight years, and it will happen after 20 years-you can still watch me from a distance.Brother, you are brave enough, I accept it.

It's still the same sentence, unless the person concerned has the willingness to face the problem, accept the problem, and actively solve the problem.

I'm waiting to see the first big outburst after the deep affection.

(End of this chapter)