A Book That Addresses Women's Health Issues

Chapter 112 Mother-in-law is not good or bad, smart daughter-in-law is respected

Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has given people the impression that "fire and water are incompatible".Many daughters-in-law complain that their mother-in-law is not good. In fact, there is no such thing as a good or bad mother-in-law. The key is to be a smart daughter-in-law.By being a smart daughter-in-law, the "bad mother-in-law" can also become a good mother-in-law.And such a woman is more respected.Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has given people the impression that "fire and water are incompatible".A few days ago, a friend and I kept complaining on the phone, complaining here and there.She complained the most about her mother-in-law, how her mother-in-law "occupied" her husband, how her mother-in-law hated her, and even wanted to kick her out as a daughter-in-law.In fact, I also knew that she had too many grievances with her mother-in-law, so after a few words of persuasion, I hung up the phone, thinking of finding an opportunity to talk to her about these things.In fact, after all women marry their husbands, they hope that they can be favored by their in-laws and loved by their husbands.But one thing is that friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is inevitable.Daily necessities, having children, and becoming a family, of course the mother-in-law must meddle in other's affairs, which can easily lead to conflicts.When encountering this situation, female friends can think about it, when you have friction with your parents, let alone your mother-in-law!Many daughters-in-law complain that their mother-in-law is not good. In fact, there is no such thing as a good or bad mother-in-law. The key is to be a smart daughter-in-law.By being a smart daughter-in-law, the "bad mother-in-law" can also become a good mother-in-law.And such a woman is more respected.

How to be a smart daughter-in-law to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?First of all, you have to regard yourself as a member of this family, regard the family members as your relatives, and accept this family from your heart.Of course, you also have to treat your parents-in-law as your own parents, and maintain and respect them from the bottom of your heart.Learn how you loved your parents and your brothers and sisters when you were in your natal family.In this family, we must also learn from our mentality and practices when we were in our natal family.Connect yourself with all the benefits of this new home.In this way, your words and deeds in this home will not be too "different".Apart from your husband, your in-laws and other family members will integrate you into the family as soon as possible.Second, be diligent.The mouth must be diligent, and the labor must be diligent.Usually, calling "Mom" a few more times will bring you a lot of benefits.Call when asking for help, call when expressing love, call when saying hello, anyway, there are too many calls, some people are willing to listen, and some people love you more.So smart daughter-in-law, don't forget this secret weapon.However, it needs to be explained that it is not just for you to be called mom, but also to be called dad, brothers and sisters more, and to say more polite words, words of thanks, and words of love, and you will never suffer.In addition to working hard, the sisters also have to work hard.Usually do a little more work at home, even if you don't want to, you have to do the work under your nose, don't let your parents-in-law have something to say.Again, use a little gimmick.

Many people will mention giving gifts to the elderly during the holidays.In fact, I think there is one thing that a smart daughter-in-law must try, and that is to be a food partner with her mother-in-law.You know, food is the best communication tool.Daughter-in-law, don't patronize yourself as a gourmet. Occasionally in a month, you will turn down a date with a friend and take your mother-in-law to eat snacks and delicacies that she has never eaten.Even if it's not to her taste, I believe she will be very happy.You can also watch food shows with your mother-in-law, and usually study food with your mother-in-law.Once you come and go, with the "friendship of classmates", the relationship between you and your mother-in-law will become more harmonious.In addition, today's young people love to surf the Internet, and they also know how to surf the Internet and play computer games, so teaching mother-in-law to play computer games is also an important weapon for a smart daughter-in-law in the new era.So, as long as your mother-in-law is literate, do computer literacy for her as soon as possible.First, you can make the old lady fashionable; second, you can finally have the opportunity to "educate" her.The last trick is to go shopping with the mother-in-law, which is something all women love to do.If you often go shopping with your mother-in-law, you may find that you both like the same style of tableware and clothes of the same color... These common hobbies may become a bridge of friendship between the two.After talking so much, I don't know if female friends can learn some "classics" from it.In any case, when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together under the same roof, conflicts are inevitable.Therefore, as a daughter-in-law, don't impulsively quarrel with your in-laws, especially your mother-in-law, and make more clever "tricks", and you will have a happy and harmonious family!

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