wolf road

Chapter 6 Wolf Spirit (6)
I am in the boundless wilderness, despite the wind and rain, I gallop forward silently, occasionally shouting up to the sky, trying to tear apart the boundless darkness, the echo echoes through the earth!
enjoy solitude
On the grasslands of North America, the bison is a relatively fierce animal in North America, with a weight of 1000 kilograms and sharp double horns on the top of its head. Even in the face of the most aggressive predators, it will not flinch.But today, it met a pack of wolves.

Wolves wandered around the herd, not aimlessly, but staring at their prey.Sensing the danger, the bison raised their guard.But wolves weigh only 40 kilograms, the same weight as domestic dogs.Why should these fierce bison worry?To be successful, wolves must solve two problems—cooperative hunting and waiting for suitable prey.If you make a mistake in choosing your target, you will end up ruining your own life.Therefore, wolves must wait patiently to find old, weak and sick prey.

When the whole herd is resting, it is difficult to distinguish the weak members from the strong bison. The wolf can only wait patiently.At this point, continuing to approach the herd will attack.The wolves had to isolate the weak bison, and gradually, they surrounded the bison.The air was extremely tense.The hardy bison are not worried, they are not threatened.But the weak bison couldn't resist at all, and finally a bison was captured by wolves while running.

From the patience of wolves, we must learn how to enjoy life in solitude.

In the dawn of the morning light, the dusk of the setting sun, or the silent night, if you walk into loneliness alone, you can deeply understand that loneliness is a kind of beauty.Only in solitude is everything real.Smile is for yourself, crying is for yourself, slight melancholy is for yourself, sweet joy is for yourself.Only then can we gently sort out the dreamy past, let the inexplicable fatigue and unnecessary sorrow recede like a tide behind us, let the erratic eyes of the past be as clear as water, and let the restless face be as peaceful as the moon.Only in solitude can we integrate ourselves into nature, perfectly appreciate the splendor of spring flowers, the intensity of summer wind, the tranquility of autumn colors, and the crystal clearness of winter snow, and then we can know how to cherish life and treat friends kindly.

Everyone should keep up with the trend of the times, otherwise they will fall behind and be eliminated.But while following the footsteps of the times, it is even more important to keep the calmness of a bystander who stays out of the way, so as to know the real direction.

Originally life is doomed to wander around.Because we have two feet and a brain that can imagine.Wandering and wandering cannot be regarded as a poor word, it is a true portrayal of all our human life, and it is also a life that we should muster up the courage to pursue.

A great man is one who can accomplish his mission in solitude.If you have experienced true loneliness and loneliness, and you have used your own strength to overcome loneliness and loneliness, and found your own way, with your own creation and achievement, you can believe that loneliness and loneliness are not as you imagined. As scary as imagine it is, because it's motivating for you.

Loneliness is not terrible, what is terrible is not being interested in anything.A person who can love and study one thing enthusiastically, and is unwilling to waste time on any other thing, not only is he not afraid of loneliness, but sometimes he likes loneliness.

Love to the extreme, loneliness has become a desirable beauty.

If everyone is unwilling to take the initiative to find friends, of course everyone will feel lonely and lonely.

When you are alone, you don’t feel lonely; when you are cold, you don’t feel lonely; when you are free, you don’t have nothing to do, relying on the richness and fulfillment of your heart.

Under the tangible intimacy, there is still an invisible distance between people.And this distance is sometimes very far away, but we don't have to feel pessimistic because of this distance, we just have to admit that these are some facts.If a person can admit the facts, he will have the courage to face the facts, and if he can face the facts, he will not feel that loneliness is terrible.

People who like quietness ask for quietness precisely to find themselves, to listen to their inner voice, and to make themselves no longer lonely.

Because we always stick to our own prejudices and seldom use sympathy and love to imagine others, so we are more likely to fall into isolation and loneliness.

It is true that a person will feel lonely without friends, but if he is too busy to face himself, he may feel even more lonely.Everyone's loneliness is inherent.Unless you don't think deeply, unless you are satisfied with the superficial hustle and bustle, you will inevitably feel that even in the hustle and bustle, you are still alone.A person's loneliness cannot be eliminated by fame, status or tangible happiness.Often what we feel is the loneliness of the soul, the loneliness of suffering and joy and having nowhere to express.No one can really understand our inner bitterness and loneliness.

As long as you learn to enjoy loneliness, you will collect new greenery in the vicissitudes of life.Instead of suffocating life in endless disputes, why not be alone, rinse your heart and purify your soul.If you have to climb to the top to see the glory of the sunrise, it is better to lie quietly by the stream at the foot of the mountain and watch the half-remnant rainbow reflected in the water; if you have to sing like a nightingale to impress others, it is better to be alone Shouting, piercing the silence of the sky.Everyone in the world needs to enjoy solitude at the right time. A life that is too noisy can make people tired easily, and things that are too cumbersome can make people feel in a trance.

Beethoven was lonely all his life, and it was because of this that he achieved his great career. Every note in the "Symphony of Destiny" expresses his heartfelt voice. He knocks on people's hearts in another way, telling people that he has found the value of life in loneliness.

After Zhong Ziqi's death, Boya enjoyed solitude, otherwise he would have found a bosom friend very quickly.In this way, future generations will not appreciate the beauty of Boya's ancient music.

Lu You lived idly in Shanyin for 20 years in his later years, and kept more than 20 poems.Although he ended his life as a poet with regret, it is precisely because of his [-] years of solitude that he has left a rich cultural heritage for China.

Learning to enjoy loneliness will not only not make your life boring, but will also make your life more enjoyable.

When you really calm down, you will know that when you are lonely, people are the calmest and most confident. In the lonely world, there is only yourself, and that is a world that truly belongs to you.Loneliness is a kind of tranquility, and the lonely starry sky has the flash of wisdom.Your mind is sublimated, your soul is washed.

Having loneliness is a feeling, and being kind to loneliness is a state.Let us think about gains and losses in loneliness, chew on success and failure, and look forward to the future!
are you lonely

Many people have experienced the pain of loneliness.Relevant statistics show that loneliness has become a common problem among modern people.Psychologists estimate that this focus on loneliness and relationships will continue to grow as societies grow wealthier.

[-]. Definition and measurement of loneliness
Loneliness and isolation mean different things.Loneliness is an individual's perception of the quantity and quality of his or her social interactions.This definition of loneliness helps us understand why some people are perfectly happy living away from people, while others experience loneliness despite being surrounded by people and in constant contact with others.Many new humans now complain that they don't have many real friends around them.

For these individuals, a strong sense of loneliness can arise when the need for frank interaction with someone cannot be met.In this sense, loneliness is a personal experience.Loneliness is considered a personality trait, although everyone experiences loneliness and the fact that loneliness comes and goes according to circumstances.Some personality scales have been designed to measure people's general susceptibility to loneliness.Using this scale to test a certain university shows that the average score of college students on all items is usually 6 to 7 points. The higher the score, the more lonely, and among the four relationships of friendship, family and opposite sex and group, friendship Class scores the highest, followed by relationship with groups.It can be seen that interpersonal relationship problems are still the main obstacle to people's mental health.

The causes of loneliness

People with loneliness tend to make harsh, harsh judgments of others and themselves when socializing.

Many people with loneliness lack some basic social skills that prevent them from forming lasting relationships with others.

([-]) Negative evaluation of others and self
Lonely people may be more withdrawn, anxious, more sensitive to rejection, and very prone to depression.Lonely people spend less time with friends, date less often, attend less parties, and have few close friends.In interpersonal interactions, they have extremely negative evaluations of themselves and each other.

([-]) Lack of basic social skills
Some people are happy to communicate with others, but once they have more important and longer conversations, they will have difficulty and lack basic social skills.They also have no chance to practice social skills, so it is difficult to have lasting friends.They are less interested in their partners, often unable to comment on what the other party says, and provide less information about themselves to the other party. On the contrary, these loners talk more about themselves and often introduce new contacts with the other party. Topics that are not of interest, tend to play a passive social role, that is, unwilling to put in much effort in the conversation.As a result, we often find it tedious to socialize with lonely people, who don't understand how it drives away potential friends.They reveal little when others expect them to reveal much, and they reveal too much when others don't.As a result, they appear to others as cold and incomprehensible, and others respond accordingly.

Lonely people have difficulty forming close friendships with others because of their negative social skills and lack of necessary social skills.Being with these people is often unpleasant, making it difficult for them to form relationships that help them develop their social skills, and it is difficult for them to escape loneliness.Psychologists believe that through the training of basic social skills, lonely people can get out of the vicious circle of loneliness, and it has been widely used in the practice of psychological counseling and treatment.These programs offer some hope that loneliness need not be trapped in a downward spiral of depression.

how to overcome loneliness

Everyone has times when they are alone, why do some people feel lonely while others don't?

Loneliness is a reflection of a closed mind, a lonely and depressing emotion produced by feeling that one is isolated from the outside world or rejected by the outside world.When you can't follow your wishes or plans; live on dreams that are impossible to achieve; are separated from or experience the shock of a loved one's death; have unspeakable shame; are excluded from the group you want to join; Ridiculous or despised by others; disagrees with others everywhere and cannot get along harmoniously and naturally; dare not confide in others, because they are afraid of being laughed at, revealing their secrets, being indifferent and not getting sympathy; being restricted by their parents activities and associations; new surroundings change your life; regret or shame about making a life-long mistake; disinterest in or want to do everything others do; feeling bored and empty, not knowing what to do ; timid to socialize or talk to others; feeling lonely when I feel that no one understands me.

Everyone experiences loneliness more or less in their life.It is not terrible to have a sense of loneliness, but if this kind of psychology is not properly relieved or relieved and develops into a habit, it will become withdrawn and eccentric, and if it is more serious, it is very likely to suffer from autism, which requires the treatment of a psychiatrist up.

The following are some ways to overcome loneliness, as long as you persevere, you will definitely receive unexpected results.

Recognize that there are other people besides you who feel as lonely as you.Take at least a little time each day to try and reach out to others.To cultivate your interest in other people's lives or events, you can start with a certain person, so that you can make communication easier and gradually eliminate your own closed habits.Helping others and doing things for others will make you feel needed, which will lessen your loneliness.Inviting others to do things with you, such as doing activities together, will allow you to find the companions you need.

Be sure to trust others, so you will find that you have made a close friend.If you find that trust to be reliable, you will be very happy.Try to participate in group activities, become a member of the group and share happiness, responsibility and pain with others, which is not easy for some people.But once you get up the courage to go to an event, you'll find something that interests you, and you'll find some people you like, and friendships will follow.All in all, the most important thing to overcome loneliness is to try to change your original environment.

When you are alone, arrange some things you are interested in, read books, listen to music, engage in your own hobbies, etc.Everyone will have a lonely time, to satisfy their hobbies in their own time, this is a kind of joy in life.

Make a cup of tea when you are alone, and taste the taste of life alone; plant a bunch of flowers when you are alone, and harvest the colorful life alone; sleep well when you are alone, and enjoy the beauty of dreams alone.When you are alone, enjoy loneliness, then you can enjoy the gift of life well when you are not alone!
Do not relax

The patient spirit of the wolf is the constant spirit of insisting on the green hills and not relaxing.

Patience of the will works wonders.When others have stopped advancing, you still persevere; when others are disappointed and give up, you still carry on, which requires considerable courage.What makes you get a higher position and higher salary than others, and what makes you extraordinary is this ability to persevere and endure, and the ability not to change your actions because of your likes and dislikes.

The spirit and attitude of patience are the key to the success of many businessmen.When marketing products, no matter how arrogant and rude the other party is, never turn back in anger, this kind of businessman can win.If the sale fails once, two, three, or four times, in the end, the other party will not only admire his courage and determination, but also feel his patience and sincerity and complete him and take care of his business.

In the business world, those who do the most business, have the most customers, and sell the most products are those who are not discouraged, can endure, and do not say no in their answers, and are those who have the spirit of patience, modesty and politeness A person who is enough to make others feel uncomfortable and difficult to express their feelings.Those who cannot endure after being stimulated will not achieve great achievements.

Human nature is always somewhat unwelcome to the salesmen of various businesses; if you can send him away, you always try to send him away.But when they meet someone with patience and humility, things change.They know that a patient salesman is not easy to dismiss; they often buy the salesman's merchandise because they admire that salesman's patience.

Those who are meek, cheerful, polite, and sincere, and at the same time patient, are more fortunate.

It's so easy to do what we enjoy, what we love and feel passionate about.But it takes courage and patience to give one's full attention to that which is unpleasant, unpleasant, which our heart disapproves, and which we are compelled to do for other people's sake.

After setting a fixed goal, you must concentrate all your energy to achieve that goal.This ability is the most admired and respected by others.You have established a reputation of perseverance, determination, and patience, and you are not afraid of losing your position in the world. However, if you show some attitudes of unsteadiness and intolerance, others will understand that you are white iron, not pure iron. Steel, they will look down on you, you will fail.

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