A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

Chapter 894 In the final analysis, it’s all about money

In fact, in Zhang Lan's opinion, the core issue in this kind of thing is one, which is whether there is enough money.

For example, Zhang Lan's mother is having a lively discussion with the supermarket aunt. To put it bluntly, modern society is different from before.

In the past, if you hired a son-in-law, the son-in-law would not agree to having people from the clan help you suppress him. Now, everything depends on the law. At this time, if you use reason to pressure people, it is better to use money.

She hired a son-in-law, but her daughter secretly asked her son to take the man's surname. That's right, you did everything right. When the big number is gone, I will just practice the trumpet. Now that the test tube technology is so advanced, under normal circumstances, unless you are too old and can afford the money, you will always have a way to have another child.

Nowadays, there are more only children, and there are not many only children who get married in both aspects. At this time, whether to take the father's surname or the mother's surname, according to traditional customs, it is to take the father's surname. The vast majority of people in real society do the same.

There are also cases where two children are born, one with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname. There are no hard and fast regulations in the relevant laws. Any surname can be used. It is up to the parents to decide.

Some women's parents are businessmen, and it is understandable that they care about this issue of face. Some also care about the distance from them and the number of visits to them during the New Year. This is human nature and is calculated to the core.

Nowadays, in economically developed coastal areas, I heard that some parents who only have one daughter hope to have their own direct descendants to inherit their family business and pass on their bloodline.

Competing with this surname symbol gave rise to the so-called "two-end marriage". Marriage is an AA system. The man does not pay a gift and the woman does not pay a dowry. When the man and woman get married, a happy event is held at home. After getting married, if you live on both sides, the necessary houses, cars, etc. need to be purchased jointly by both parties! Jointly support parents in both parties’ homes, etc. The biggest and most obvious feature is the birth of two children after marriage, one with the man's surname and the other with the woman's surname.

In Zhang Lan's view, this kind of two-way marriage is actually more suitable than having a bride. There is also the marriage of the supermarket aunt's daughter. Instead of asking for this and worrying about that, it initially shows that two-way marriage may be able to find someone more suitable.

At the very least, in this type of marriage, purchases such as houses and cars are jointly financed by both parties. This avoids the traditional method in which the man contributes the capital alone, which causes the man to bear huge financial pressure.

In this way, when there are daily quarrels in the later period, the man will not cause more conflicts due to psychological imbalance.

Also, because it was stated from the beginning that no betrothal gift or dowry would be required, the issue of children is attached to this condition. In this way, the parents of both parties can sit down and talk about it. After the negotiation, there will be no problems due to the marriage. Later, when talking about this matter, it affected the relationship between the couple and the harmony of both families.

But there are also some hidden problems. The most important thing is that families that can propose this method are generally more or less patriarchal.

According to the custom of double marriage, one child takes the father's surname and the other takes the mother's surname. But what if the first child is a girl and the second child is a boy?
In traditional thinking, men want boys to be able to carry on the family line, but girls are not. This is the most obvious reflection of the idea of ​​​​carrying on the family line in two-partner marriages. If a boy takes his mother's surname, there may be conflicts in the man's mind.

There is also the impact of the reactions of the two parents on the children. It goes without saying that the elders of both parties will unconsciously prefer children with the same surname as themselves.

It would be okay if the family backgrounds of both parties are similar, but if the economic gap between the two parties is relatively large, it can easily cause conflicts among the children.

For the same two children, when the economic gap is relatively large, some families will have one child grow up and the old man will be ready to get married and have children without having to worry about anything. Compared to another child, he may have to work hard on his own. The same two brothers, one doesn't have to worry about anything, the family has prepared everything for him. Everything requires hard work.

The reason is that when two people were born, they had different surnames, so they were treated differently. Under such circumstances, can you expect that this child will not complain.

No matter what the method is, in the end it still comes down to personal choice. Those who have three sons will not necessarily take care of you until you grow old, but those who have only one daughter will take care of your parents for the rest of their lives.

Is marriage a business? Yes and no. In fact, everyone chooses another person for the same reason.

Wherever you put your conditions, it's determined who you can match. The same goes for double marriages. Without the initial inequality between "marrying" and "getting married", what ultimately maintains the marriage is the subsequent simultaneous growth of the two people, which may be closer to the essence of love.

Because so-called love can never escape conditions, but the conditions are not necessarily money. Even in Qiong Yao's novels, where a rich man matches a beautiful woman, and an alluring lady falls in love with a poor boy, that poor boy is also talented.

After all, marriage is a game of conditions. In fact, most families with two marriages have strong women and weak men in the original family. Even if they are similar, the woman will be slightly better off.

If the girl's family didn't have a certain level of strength, there would be no way to talk about a two-part marriage. However, the man's family of origin is poor, and if the individual is not good enough, he will be looked down upon first, and even if he gets married, he will recruit a wife.

But on the other hand, if the family does not have a throne to inherit, in this era, it would be better to have less trouble.

After fighting so hard for the right to name the child, maybe within two years, the daughter and son-in-law will get divorced. When the time comes, the child will be taken directly to her parents' home and they can have whatever surname they want.

The chat between Zhang Lan's mother and the supermarket aunt Xiaoyu ended with a phone call from Zhang Lan's aunt. It was said that after Zhang Lan’s grandpa hit his cousin with a cane during the day, his cousin’s son and daughter found out about it at night.

Although Zhang Lan treated the wound in a timely manner, Zhang Lan's mother specially asked the aunt who was cooking at the winery to give her cousin extra food in the evening.

The old man seemed to be fine, but his son and daughter had not said anything yet, and his daughter-in-law was unwilling to do so.

She kept talking about why Zhang Lan's grandfather beat people with a cane, and the head was bleeding, and he just bandaged it, and didn't even mention going to the hospital. She would not let it go, and had asked Zhang Lan overnight. Lan, my cousin's son, drove over.

The cousin's son couldn't stop anyone, so he quietly sent a WeChat message to Aunt Zhang Lan. He didn't have Zhang Lan's mother's WeChat account, so he could only mention it to Zhang Lan's aunt so that she could be mentally prepared.

After receiving the call, Zhang Lan's mother was very angry. After saying a few words to the supermarket aunt, she left and asked Zhang Lan to drive her to the winery.

(End of this chapter)