The leisurely life of rebirth

Chapter 43
I returned to my little nest and felt much better again.

Sure enough, I am still a bit worried about trouble. Although I can control the rhythm, I feel a little irritable when I put too much energy into it.

You lie in bed and think about life.

Originally, I had enough money to spend in this life, and I could rest easy, but my utilitarianism is still so strong, I want to pick up when there is something missing, and I can't control it.

I have read a book called Influence before, and I have read this book many times. It mainly talks about how a person is influenced by his surroundings to consume.

This book on influence focuses on six aspects: reciprocity, commitment, social recognition, preference, authority, and scarcity.In fact, these principles are mentioned in many ancient Chinese humanities classics, such as The Analects of Confucius, Zengguang Xianwen, Shiji and other aspects, but the nouns are different and there is no special arrangement.

At present, there are almost no new developments in the humanities, and all the principles can be found in almost all Chinese classical works.

Sometimes I read history books, although I read them in general terms, but I also find that most of the time it is just reincarnation, human nature has not changed much, human nature has not changed much, social influence is just reincarnation, and various new theories are just there. Some are based on innovation and cannot break through the net because human nature has not changed significantly.

I have read The Analects of Confucius and Zengguang Xianwen, but I feel different every time I read it. As I grow older, my experience deepens, my understanding becomes deeper and deeper. Young people feel that they can fight against the world, and gradually feel that they can support themselves. That’s awesome.

At first I was very indignant about some of the injustices I encountered, but gradually I became accustomed to it. I am an ordinary person, and the normal life of ordinary people is encountering injustice.

And many times there is nothing to do, there is basically no way to resist, or the cost of resisting is too high, so there is no courage to do these things.

So slowly, as long as it's not a big grievance or injustice, you can bear it silently or laugh it off.

Since you can't change the world, then change yourself, change your mood, change your way of thinking, abandon the orthodox ideas of the past, and accept the rules of survival you have mastered.

There are many schools in the world, and many experts and scholars are in conflict with each other. There will be conflicts between hundreds of schools of thought, the dispute between Legalism and Confucianism, and between various academic disciplines such as psychology and Neo-Confucianism.

Therefore, the views we have been exposed to since childhood are not necessarily suitable for us, so we must choose the good ones, change the bad ones, and choose the code of conduct that can make us happier based on our own reality.

The world is always trying to take more things from us, either overtly or covertly. In the face of big interest groups, we are unable to resist.

The only thing we can do is to prevent small interest groups from carving up our property, such as scammers, businessmen, illegal interest groups, malicious authorities and other groups.

They use various means to force us to submit, want to suck blood from us, further squeeze us, paint a big pie for us, and make us work hard with small favors.

They use illusory authority to make us comply, use popular norms to induce us, and use our preferences to get closer to us. Now think about it, they have received too many influences since childhood.

We are influencing others, and others are influencing us.

For example, the rise in housing prices will force and induce you to buy a house.

When faced with something you like, sometimes you still have to buy it.

Continuously strive for better treatment at work, and social recognition and norms make people comply as much as possible.

For example, marriage and childbirth, education and medical care, and parental authority make people have to submit step by step and live according to public norms, and they are not allowed to simply live their short life according to their own wishes.

The book "Influence" mainly talks about business matters, but in fact it also touches on all aspects of life.

We are influenced by advertising, policy, publicity, social norms, and more.

Sometimes there is no way, because people's energy and time are really limited, and if they think about everything carefully, it will not take long before they collapse.

Therefore, human instinct is a means for individuals to live in a complex society, but unfortunately it is being exploited by more and more people.The only way to relieve worries is to read, read more, practice more, and think more.

Let go of helping others and respect the fate of others.

In the past six months of traveling, as everything went smoothly and money continued to expand, my mentality became a bit inflated, and I actually had the illusion of being a savior.

Life without money is meaningless, and just making money is meaningless.

"Fangfang, let's go swimming together"

If you don't exercise for a long time, your body will not make you happy. Exercise makes you happy and can secrete dopamine and phenolphthalein.

One of the important reasons for postpartum depression for many people is that the body is no longer happy. They cannot exercise while lying in bed. They have to face a complex new environment and the body cannot accept it.

Now that the swimming pool is my own, if nothing else, just to make swimming comfortable for me, I must improve the water quality of the swimming pool, and besides, I won’t be short of money.

No matter whether it is winter or summer, it is best to take a shower before going into the water. Not only to rinse the body clean, but also to let the body adapt to the water temperature.

Take a break while sitting on the shore and splash the water on your body a few times. This can avoid many problems, such as cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases and leg cramps.

Looking at the huge swimming pool, I feel deeply satisfied in my heart.

There was originally hope that I would have a separate swimming pool, but I didn’t expect that it would come true in disguise in this life.

Adjust the water temperature in advance before coming here, otherwise when swimming, the water temperature will be cold and hot at the same time, which will feel too sour and refreshing.

First, I slowly swam a few laps with freestyle, breaststroke, and backstroke to get my body moving.

Then he started sprinting and swimming

Swim 100 meters with all your strength.

The swimming pool was agitated with splashes of water
There is a sense of joy in the whole body and mind, the recent stress is gone, and I have an uplifting mental state again.

Wang Fangfang was watching him swimming. She originally wanted to spend the night at his place last night, but Zhou You didn't mention it, and she was too embarrassed to take the initiative.

It seems that he is a little depressed and is still thinking about what happened. Now after exercising, he feels better. Don't sit there and chat.

"I saw that you were not feeling well yesterday, so I wanted to ask you. I didn't know what unhappy things happened to you."

The feeling of being cared for is comfortable, and a warm current surges in my heart.

"It's okay, it's just that I'm too free. If I'm free, it's easy to think about things. If I don't think well, I'll be depressed easily. I'm fine now."

"Come on, come down and swim for a while and teach me how to hold my breath underwater."

Wang Fangfang jumped from the shore and swam from one end to the other in one breath. This was only a short 25 meters, which was too easy for her as a professional athlete.

The mermaid in the water is nothing more than that.

　Seek to read, seek collection
　　
　
(End of this chapter)