Rebirth: Rewriting Youth

Chapter 161 Father and Son

Father Shen looked at Shen Yu's skillful smoking movements and instinctively glared. He couldn't help but start talking again: "When did you learn to smoke?"

Shen Yu said calmly: "I learned it in college."

Father Shen opened his mouth, perhaps because he suddenly thought that his son was now a capable 'millionaire'. Shouldn't he stop scolding him casually like before?After thinking about it for a while, he finally toughened his temper and said, "Children should smoke less. What does it look like at such a young age?"

"Yeah." Shen Yu nodded with a smile and said, "I understand."

Hearing Shen Yu's return, Father Shen felt like he was punched in the cotton. He was not used to this sense of emptiness, so he angrily picked up the cigarette on the table and lit another one.

The two people, one large and one small, were smoking in silence.

After thinking for a long time, Shen Yu took the lead in breaking the silence: "Dad, you should resign from your boss after the year and find a lighter job or..."

"Fuck your mother!" Father Shen immediately scolded him like a cat whose tail was stepped on.A roar made Ping An on the balcony startle, and he called out "Meow."

Father Shen then said: "What's wrong? You just made some money and you're gone, right? I'm not old enough to do it yet."

"No, dad." Shen Yu said with a frown, but was interrupted by Father Shen: "Okay, stop talking, the boss has always been very good to me, and even if you make more than me now, he doesn't like you I have this little money, so I can make pension money for myself and your mother, without your having to worry about it."

Shen Yu thought for a while and was about to persuade, when Father Shen continued: "In this life, if you are poor today, you may be rich tomorrow, and if you are rich today, you may be poor tomorrow. Wealth is like running water, and human relationships are like mountains. You are still young and can make money. It’s so easy, but don’t let yourself float just because you have money, and don’t let the windfall fool you.”

"What are you doing, what are you doing, why are you making such noise at night?" Shen's mother appeared in the living room wearing clothes and said.

"You go to sleep, I'm here with him in class." Father Shen said to Mother Shen.

"Mom, go to sleep." Shen Yu also said with a smile.

"Speak well and don't make any noise." Mother Shen glanced at the two of them and then returned to the room.

After Shen's mother left, Shen's father thought for a while and continued. "You did well if you had money to buy a house, but the car you bought is not suitable. A car is just a means of transportation. It is a waste to buy such a good car! And you are a college student, what does it look like to drive such a good car? You have grown up He just spends money lavishly and has no sense of control."

"Then how about I drive the car for you? Can we switch cars?" Shen Yu interrupted.

"Whatever car I want, I will buy it myself! I don't need any charity from you!" Father Shen returned immediately.

Shen Yu raised his head and took a closer look at Father Shen in front of him. His skin was dark, there were a few wrinkles on his forehead, his eyes were slightly sunken, his face looked very thin, his expression was a bit haggard, and there were a few strands of white hair on his temples. .

Before his rebirth, Shen Yu felt that his father had an old look on his face.After rebirth, time spanned more than ten years, and I subconsciously felt that Father Shen was still very young.But at this moment, Shen Yu realized that this stubborn old man who was very strong, had a bad temper, and always spoke his mind at home was actually almost 50 years old.Long-term hard work in harsh conditions in a small factory made Father Shen look a little older than his peers.

"Dad, I now earn 34 yuan a month. And the book I wrote will continue to make money. I estimate that it will not be a problem to earn 2000 million to [-] million. I will prepare to invest and start a business later next year. So you don’t have to worry about it in the future. I'm worried now. I have the ability to take control of my own life! You take what you earn, take my mother to eat some good food, go out for travel and so on. After working hard for most of your life, isn't it good to relax yourself? Well." Shen Yu adjusted his mood and said it properly.

I thought that Father Shen would be like before, giving a few words of education as usual to show off his authority as the head of the family.Unexpectedly, Father Shen quietly listened to Shen Yu's long speech without saying a word for a long time. In the end, he just became inexplicably depressed, waved his hand and said, "It's up to you."

Shen Yu was suddenly stunned, and it took him a long time to come back to his senses, and finally replied silently.

"You make your own decisions about your own money. I don't care. I won't care about you anymore." Father Shen stood up a little lonely, tightened his clothes and said as he walked: "Go to bed early, it's not early." Yes. I have to go to work tomorrow, so I’ll go to bed first.”

Shen Yu looked at Father Shen's back and suddenly felt that he seemed to be missing something. Maybe it was that he was missing some youth and that he was getting old and helpless?
On this day, he might really be old.

After washing up and returning to bed, Shen Yu turned around on the bed and thought that he seemed to be a little drifting off. He might not have thought through what he said just now, and it seemed that he had inadvertently hurt Father Shen's self-esteem.And it seems that the blow I gave to Father Shen was a little too severe, and it felt like Father Shen's energy was suddenly knocked out.

To be honest, Shen Yu didn't know whether such a direct and naked attack was good or not.In the face of Shen Yu's gains in the past six months, Shen's father's half-life efforts are indeed not enough. However, this is the result of half a life's struggle of his parents, and he really shouldn't be told to give up so lightly.When saying those words, Shen Yu completely ignored Shen's father's contribution to the family.

What happened tonight was a wake-up call for Shen Yu, don't get carried away!

Everything started again, with some small achievements, and there were two girls around me.Shen Yu thought that he was mature enough to be able to suppress his arrogance and arrogance after making money, but unexpectedly, it still showed up unknowingly.

When getting along with Father Shen, Shen Yu in his previous life didn't feel anything.Perhaps it was because when I was young in my previous life, I was habitually educated by Father Shen and chose the same non-resistance approach as Mother Shen.After Shen's father was injured, Shen's father calmed down his anger, and Shen Yu also became mature in a short period of time. Although there were quarrels, Shen's father chose to avoid them in the end.

The relationship between the reborn Shen Yu and Shen's father is full of embarrassment and discomfort.Shen Yu felt that because he was claiming to be a reborn person, he did not take Father Shen seriously.He began to resist the authority of Father Shen, the expectations and requirements imposed on him by Father Shen, and acted according to his own ideas.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with this. After all, no one could have imagined that Shen Yu was a special case.

Of course, having said that, the dilemma between father and son runs through every man's life.Whether you are a son or a father in the future, the father-son relationship is an extremely difficult life proposition.

Between us and our father, there is not only love, but also confrontation and reconciliation, struggle and helplessness.

According to psychologists' research, the father-son relationship can be roughly summarized into five stages in a person's life.

During the idolization period, the father is omnipotent and omniscient.At this stage, the child will try his best to please his father and try to gain recognition and acceptance from his father.

During the discord period, the relationship between father and son is almost dominated by conflict.As a teenager, you gained a sense of independence and became a "rebellious" child.

During the evolutionary period, father and son were still emotionally distant.It becomes a hidden competition.Your voice is increasing, and you may become more involved in your parents' or family's affairs.

Acceptance period, when you are already 40 or [-] years old.Maybe you have your own children and slowly understand the feelings and difficulties of being a father.During this period you gradually begin to forgive, accept, and even admire your father.The same goes for my father who is getting older.

Reconciliation/legacy period, when we reach the age of 50, we can see love, tolerance, admiration, understanding and tolerance in those father-son relationships that have been reconciled.In those father-son relationships that have not been faced and dealt with throughout their lives, the unmetabolized wishes, sadness, anger, and even gratitude and regret are likely to affect the relationship between the son and the grandchildren again.

However, these stages are only general descriptions and do not cover all individual cases.

You may have a very good relationship with your father, so congratulations, you are lucky.Because in many cases, the father (perhaps due to limitations of the objective environment) did not play his due role, and the son has never been able to face and try to solve the problems between father and son.

The worst thing is those sons who are caught between two generations. While you have to support your elderly father, you also have to face a son who gives you a headache.

This is almost an allegorical "revenge".

Think back to your early confrontations with your father, and you'll realize that that resistance was part of your growth.Although this process is painful for both parties, it is extremely important for your growth.In the process of resistance, you are building your own identity and you need to find your own way of seeing the world.

No matter which social culture they are in, men tend to hide and suppress their emotions and feelings.This has become an obstacle to effective communication between father and son, and has also widened the gap between the two.

"Hey." Shen Yu turned over and sighed helplessly.

Thinking of Father Shen's attitude today, still refusing to give up his own career, he also thought of what happened to Father Shen in his previous life.

Shen Yu thought that when he was in college, he would choose an industrial entrepreneurial direction, and then find an opportunity to coax his father to come over and stay away from the place that brought him harm!
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