If life had a starting line, someone was born in Rome

Chapter 244 Do you have high hopes for your child? Or do you want to make up for your childhood regrets? (-in-)

For Zhang Yuanzhong, these three suggestions from Lin Feng really touched his heart.

Yes, I do have some wishful thinking regarding the child Yun Shu.

I hope she will spend all her time and experience studying and not engage in any business.

Those things, done at this age, are simply putting the cart before the horse!

However, these words have been said for so many years, have the children listened?

No!

Even because of his own opposition, he started making small noises and started doing things in a big way...

There's a bit of rebellious psychology here, right?

Zhang Yuanzhong suddenly understood the child somewhat.

When you are a teenager and you are rebellious, who wants to listen to your parents’ useless nagging?

and……

I have lived for such a long time, and when I think carefully about the path I have taken, it is indeed as Teacher Lin said, it is all multi-threaded.

Doing business is about practicing while learning and growing bit by bit.

It is at the moment when marriage is established that you know what it is like and slowly learn to manage it.

Taking care of a child is about learning how to take care of a child as the child grows...

Yes, there is never anything that you have to wait for yourself to learn.

Therefore, is it really reasonable for me to ask Yun Shu, a child with so much experience, to bury his head in books and ignore his hobbies at his most active age?

Zhang Yuanzhong was silent and silent again.

What if this child likes painting, calligraphy, or even sports activities?

Needless to say, I will definitely find a way to hire the best teacher for her.

After all, it’s not like the family doesn’t have the conditions to cultivate a hobby for the child. If she likes it, just do it.

However, as Teacher Lin said, is there any essential difference between these things and doing business?

No!

Teacher Lin was even right, compared to other hobbies that require parents to invest a lot of money and time.

If you do business, you can at least get money back...

Moreover, it doesn’t matter even if you can’t see the money back!

First, it’s not like the family can’t afford to pay.

Second, for those children who are learning other hobbies, do parents really expect their children to make money through this? !

Zhang Yuanzhong thought a lot...

While he was silent, the viewers in the live broadcast room were also thinking.

"I reflected weakly, let alone Yun Shu's father, I don't even know the boundary between reality and expectations."

"My child is a shy little girl, but I always want her to be more lively and cheerful, so I organize parties with my children every weekend."

"They also force the children to perform in front of everyone, euphemistically calling it: exercise."

"My child is now resistant to going out, and has gone from shy to socially fearful. I am not a good parent!"

"Teacher Lin's words made me understand one sentence more clearly - the child is a life that came to this world through me, but he belongs to himself, not to me."

"Teacher Lin is right, time moves forward in a single thread, but life does not! Aren't we all learning and walking along the way?"

"Actually, we have a deep misunderstanding of the phrase 'we are deaf to what is happening outside the window and only read the books of sages'."

"The original intention was to praise a person's concentration, but now it has become that parents require their children to not and should not care about other things except reading."

"What you said makes sense, upstairs. I misused this example yesterday."

"We parents should all listen to what Teacher Lin said. There is no distinction between high and low hobbies, but in life, those who study art, those who study music, those who study sports... each have their own differences!"

"Teacher Lin said it well, what can be wrong with Zhang Yunshu? He is just a minority who likes to compare!"

"That's right! We just dress up and follow the fashion. Should our children's hobbies also follow the fashion? No way?!"

"Oh~ It's another day of education!"

"..."

The audience in the live broadcast room was talking a lot, and the children at the scene couldn't sit still.

Sun Wei touched the drawing board she had been carrying and couldn't help but whisper to Zhang Yunshu:

"Sister Yun Shu, in fact, you like doing business and I like painting, there is no essential difference."

Zhang Yunshu smiled slightly and sighed:

"After Teacher Lin's suggestion, it is indeed true."

The two looked at each other and smiled, and Zhou Zicheng spoke at this time:

"In the final analysis, the reason why we and our parents can't get along is because we have different expectations?"

"You don't need to say much, just tell me."

"My father and I have a conflict because he expects me to study hard, but I expect to do efficient things, and studying in school is too inefficient."

"But he didn't listen! Alas~"

Speaking of this, Zhou Zicheng was full of distress.

Seeing him like this, Sun Wei and Zhang Yunshu didn't know how to comfort him.

Wu Peng, however, had a flash of lightning flash across his head, and he caught it.

"Brother Zicheng, you don't have to worry."

"Teacher Lin said that learning is something that lasts throughout a person's life."

"With so much time, sooner or later you will find an efficient way to learn."

"As for studying in school, although you can't get rid of it now, no matter how you calculate it, it will only be sixteen years."

"Besides, you have read most of it now, and you will end it sooner or later!"

It has to be said that Wu Peng's words suddenly touched Zhou Zicheng's heart.

He looked at Wu Peng with appreciation and nodded vigorously:

"You are right, sooner or later you will finish reading this crappy book!"

"Uh-huh!"

Wu Peng waved his fist to show his strength.

Sun Wei narrowed her eyes and looked at Teacher Lin thoughtfully.

When Teacher Lin takes his hand, maybe Zhou Zicheng will change his mind, right?

Lin Feng in her eyes seemed to sense Sun Wei's gaze and glanced back.

Then, he withdrew his gaze as if nothing had happened.

After a long silence, Zhang Yuanzhong slowly spoke:

"Teacher Lin, I just thought about it seriously and think what you said makes sense."

"I did make three mistakes, I admit."

After finishing speaking, he paused and then said:

"Teacher Lin, now that I've said it, I won't hide it. In fact, I'm a bit anxious as a parent."

Hearing this, Lin Feng raised his eyebrows and asked patiently:

"Can you feel and describe this anxiety in detail?"

"To be specific, when I see this kid Yun Shu focusing on business, I feel uncomfortable all over."

Knowing that Lin Feng could help him, Zhang Yuanzhong began to analyze his heart:

"I can't help but think about how I would study hard if I had the conditions I have now when I was as old as Yun Shu."

"Under the comparison of this kind of thinking, I feel more and more that this child is not good enough."

"The next step is anxiety. Worry about whether I haven't done a good enough job, and worry about whether this child is useless." "How should I put it? I just can't rest, I just want to do something."

"Sometimes it's nagging, sometimes it's losing temper..."

"Actually, when I calm down and think about it, this kid Yun Shu has been tortured quite a lot by me."

Zhang Yuanzhong analyzed his inner feelings and was stunned to hear it directly from Zhang Yunshu!

I had never heard my father mention these words before.

For her, she has heard her father’s nagging and endured his anger.

However, I have never heard of the psychological analysis behind this!

It turns out that everything is because of dad's... anxiety? !

But why should dad be anxious?

Is it because I am the only child like me who is afraid that I will not become a talented person?

Just when Zhang Yunshu tried to analyze the logic behind his father's behavior, the viewers in the live broadcast room expressed their understanding.

"As first-time parents, it's normal to worry about gains and losses."

"Dad Yunshu, relax, when my son was just born, I always dreamed that the child was lost."

"This is how pitiful the hearts of parents in the world are. They are afraid that they are not doing well."

"Oh~ I understand, I understand, it would be nice to have a few more!"

"..."

Just when everyone expressed their understanding, Lin Feng had a different opinion than everyone else:

"Dad Yunshu, after listening to what you said, I actually want you to try to analyze your own psychology from the perspective of your own childhood."

"Because, I just noticed that your first sentence was about what you would do if you had the conditions you have now when you were a child."

"In this context, Yun Shu is actually not important. What is important is the young you back then."

Lin Feng's gentle words directly caused a shocking wave in Zhang Yuanzhong's heart! !

"Could it be that my anxiety is not because of the role of 'father'?... Is it because I thought wrong before?"

What Zhang Yuanzhong said was not a question to Lin Feng, but a question he murmured to himself in shock!

Gradually, his eyes, for some unknown reason, gradually became moist...

That's right, when I was teaching Yun Shu a lesson, I always compared myself with her when I was younger.

It’s all about——

If I had such good conditions as you, I would definitely study hard.

Things are no better than before. I couldn’t read even if I wanted to. Now that you have the conditions, why don’t you study hard?

I have no choice but to go out early to do business. It's better for you. Your family is not short of money and you can rush to do business.

Thinking of all the arguments he had with his children about learning in the past, Zhang Yuanzhong fell silent.

Every sentence here begins with "I" and ends with "you"!

After a long time, he whispered to Lin Feng:

"Ha~ Teacher Lin, you really woke up the dreamer with just one word!!"

"I'm angry with Yun Shu for not studying hard and doing business too much, but this anger is actually not that profound."

"What I care about more is the me who wanted to study hard but didn't have the conditions!"

When Lin Feng heard this, he felt relieved. It would be great if we could understand each other!

"Dad Yunshu, who can live without regrets?"

Lin Feng softly comforted Zhang Yuanzhong and said:

"You don't have to blame yourself. Just imagine, looking at a small child with a face that is somewhat similar to yourself, who can think that the child is not a continuation of yourself?"

"It's not a fault, let alone despicable, to place the regrets of one's life on them and hope that they can find fulfillment in their children."

"I'm not trying to excuse you, just give me an example."

"Even a generation of literary giants like Su Shi, who had an unsatisfactory official career, still placed his affection on mountains, rivers and delicious food."

"It can be seen that people's emotions need an outlet."

"As long as we realize our mistakes in time and don't hurt others."

"It's not too late for you to realize all this now."

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the audience in the live broadcast room suddenly opened their mouths.

"???!"

"Damn it, I thought Teacher Lin was mediating family conflicts, but I didn't expect that she was doing psychological counseling!"

"It's connected! Remember what the teacher said before? It's the parents' problem!"

"Haha, a layman is watching the excitement, but I, an expert, know the ropes. Doesn't this mean that you need to work hard on your own in life, and don't catch the child's wool?"

"As a parent, these words are really a warning!"

"Damn it, my family was poor when I was a child and I had no conditions to learn piano. Now I am trying so hard to force my daughter to learn piano... The devil is actually me!"

"So, you guys upstairs, don't you think about learning one yourself?"

"I understand, I understand, the regrets I had back then should not be put on my children if I can't finish them!"

"..."

Outside the live broadcast room, tears fell from the faces of Zhang Yuanzhong and his entourage!

He choked and said:

"Lin, Teacher Lin, thank you for your enlightenment. Not only do I understand the child Yun Shu, but I also understand myself!"

"Thinking about the previous disputes between me and my children, it was really..."

For a moment, Zhang Yuanzhong didn't know how to describe that scene.

After a pause, he sighed softly and used one word:

"It's really funny and sad at the same time."

When Lin Feng heard this, he sighed softly in his heart and did not say anything.

Beside him, Zhang Yunshu heard his old father's choking voice, and his mood was ups and downs!

"teacher LIN!"

Zhang Yunshu raised his hand and said:

"Can I talk to my dad?"

As soon as these words came out, Zhang Yuanzhong heard them on the other end of the phone.

Suddenly, he became nervous!

The child already knows that I am actually putting my past regrets on her.

At this time, she took the initiative to find me. What did she want to say?

Will this child Yun Shu blame me for this?

Zhang Yuanzhong is so confused!

But, at the same time, he still had expectations in his heart.

Because his reason told him that now was a good opportunity to have an honest chat with his daughter.

"Teacher Lin, I heard everything. Please give the phone to Yun Shu."

Zhang Yuanzhong mustered up his courage and spoke to Lin Feng.

"it is good."

Lin Feng didn't waste any time and handed the phone directly to Zhang Yunshu's hand.

Hearing the rustling sound coming from over there, Zhang Yuanzhong felt his heart jump into his throat!

Zhang Yunshu, on the other hand, had a complicated complexion and a dry throat.

Because she also wants to have a heart-to-heart relationship with her father, and like her father, she also wants to analyze her heart.

"dad."

Zhang Yunshu said with a dry voice:

"Do you want to hear what's in my heart?"

"I think."

Zhang Yuanzhong's hand holding the phone was shaking slightly.

Because I didn't see my own heart clearly before, I did so many useless things, which definitely hurt my children.

Now, is this kid going to be publicly executed, or is he going to get rid of the bad blood between father and daughter?

(End of this chapter)