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Chapter 177 The child loses his ability to be independent!Became a "mama's boy"! (Three-in-one monthly pass plus updates)

Listening to Wang Dinglan's words, the audience in the live broadcast room was happy.

"??Aren't we a family education program?"

"Hahaha, why do I smell something like a blind date? Auntie is such a fun person!"

"For a moment, I thought I was in the wrong live broadcast room, 6~"

"Haha, it feels like a blind date conference!"

"It's a laugh. I don't believe this family doesn't know the nature of the show. Why did they do this?"

"Yeah, what's going on with this family?"

"..."

While everyone was laughing, Lin Feng frowned slightly, vaguely aware of the problem.

Judging from Wang Dinglan's description, there were no problems with their family and Jiang Hong, but there were deviations in the results.

The more this happens, the more information is needed to find out the root cause.

So, Lin Feng thought for a moment and asked his own question:

"Aunt Wang, I would like to ask, what were Jiang Hong's grades like when he was studying? What was his life like?"

When Wang Dinglan heard this, she said happily:

"My son, his grades are fine! He went to the best elementary school in our local area, then went directly to the junior high school and high school in our hometown, and finally passed the 211 entrance examination. The school is far from our home, and the high-speed train is 2 hours away. We go home every weekend. No messing around outside at all!”

"After graduation, the transition was seamless and I was admitted to a state-owned enterprise. My workplace is a 50-minute drive from home. I'm so lucky!"

"I'm telling you, if you had your fortune told when you were a kid, this kid will have a good fortune. Whatever he does since he was a kid, everything will be smooth sailing."

Having said this, Wang Dinglan became a little depressed:
"It's just that I'm stuck at the stage of marriage, and my fate has been delayed."

When Lin Feng heard this, wasn't this equivalent to staying in the same place for 12 years from elementary school to high school?
In addition to the function of reading, schools actually also carry the social attributes of children.

Being in the same place for 12 years is actually relatively closed.

Plus, I went to college and went home every weekend.

In other words, in college, you may rarely participate in social activities.

Jobs in state-owned enterprises are relatively stable. Jiang Hong joined right after graduation and may not have the opportunity to make amends in this aspect...

Are these the reasons why Jiang Hong can't get a girlfriend?
After a pause, Lin Feng then asked:

"Aunt Wang, can you elaborate a little more on life? What you just said was all about 'achievement'."

"oh oh."

Wang Dinglan slapped her forehead:

"In terms of life, my son is not picky about what he eats or what he wears. He uses whatever I prepare."

"We do less housework at home, but now families are not what they used to be. We now have washing machines and sweepers. If you are not good at housework, it will have no impact on your life!"

"When my son was in college, he would take his dirty clothes home and wash them. It was very convenient!"

After hearing this, Lin Feng already had a rough judgment in his mind.

In this family, the mother takes care of her children in every detail and takes care of everything.

At this moment, Wang Dinglan spoke again, looking quite proud:

"Teacher Lin, I believe you have also heard that my son is very good. He does not have any bad habits and is very well-behaved and obedient."

"I dare not say anything else about our family, but our tutors are first-rate!"

After saying that, she waited for Lin Feng's stamp of approval.

At this time, Lin Feng looked at Jiang Hong in the picture.

Judging from the registration information, Jiang Hong was 27 years old at this time and had been working for 4 years.

However, the whole person still looks like a college student who has just graduated, with an unsullied youthfulness.

There is obviously something wrong with this kind of situation, and we should listen to Jiang Hong before making a judgment.

So, Lin Feng said directly to Wang Dinglan:
"Aunt Wang, now I want to talk to Jiang Hong."

At this time, the discussion in the live broadcast room was also very lively.

"As soon as I heard Aunt Wang's words, I knew this family couldn't survive without her."

"Seeing Mama Wang reminds me of my mother. When I was at home, she made arrangements for me in all aspects."

"When I was in college, could I take the dirty clothes home and wash them? I really want a mother like this, I'm so envious."

"That's right, not to mention college, even high school, I wash them all by myself."

"I'm envious, but don't you think...it's too much to take over?"

"Isn't it bad to have everything covered? Those who are favored feel confident."

"It always feels weird. My mother is not like that."

"Hey, that's a blessing! Aunt Wang is a neat person at first glance."

"Don't argue about this. Just listen to what Teacher Lin has to say. Isn't he going to ask Jiang Hong now?"

"Yes, Teacher Lin should have his own ideas."

"Let's listen to Teacher Lin first!"

"..."

Outside the live broadcast room, director Liu Yong looked at these barrages and frowned slightly.

According to Wang Dinglan, Jiang Hong is not picky about food or clothing. The reason is that people will accept whatever she arranges...

Moreover, in college, I always brought dirty clothes home for my mother to wash. Needless to say, this must have been the pattern since childhood.

Liu Yong's interpretation of all this is different from Wang Dinglan's.

Wang Dinglan thought his son was "well-behaved", but he had a vague feeling that there was something wrong with Jiang Hong's ability to be independent.

And this situation is caused by my mother being too capable and taking care of everything.

At this time, Liu Yong suddenly thought of the children in Xiangzhang Village.

After getting along with each other for this period of time, he has discovered that despite their young age, their ability to live independently is not inferior to that of the adults in the family.

It is foreseeable that the children in Xiangzhang Village will go out to work hard in the future, and their families will not be too worried.

After such a comparison, Liu Yong shook his head.

At the same time, I admire Lin Feng’s educational policy even more——

Never use performance as the only criterion.

That's why the children in Xiangzhang Village are so outstanding.

Thinking of this, Liu Yong looked at Lin Feng's profile and thought to himself:

"Teacher Lin, what will you talk to Jiang Hong next?"

What else needs to be confirmed?

Liu Yong couldn't think of it for a moment.

At this time, in the picture, Wang Dinglan nudged Jiang Hong, and Jiang Hong nodded quickly.

Lin Feng saw this move in his eyes and asked calmly:

"Jiang Hong, how do you feel when you get along with your mother? Let's talk about it in three stages: before high school, college, and after work."

After hearing this, Jiang Hong glanced at his mother subconsciously before replying:

"My mother's care for me can be said to be meticulous. I have basically never done any housework since I was a child."

"For this, I am very grateful to my mother, and I feel sorry for her that it is not easy for her to do so many things and also take care of work."

Hearing this, Wang Dinglan was extremely moved. She knew that this son was not raised in vain!

At this time, Jiang Hong’s voice continued:
"But after I went to college, I discovered that not all families are like this. My classmates take care of themselves, but I don't know how to do anything."

Speaking of this, Jiang Hong's face turned red and he said:
"Teacher Lin, you may not believe it. It was only then that I realized that I had never been able to wash clothes, but I had never done this at all."

"Not to mention hand washing, I don't know how to use even the simplest washing machine."

"My roommates joke that I am the young master of the new era."

Speaking of this, Jiang Hong scratched his head in embarrassment:

"Because when they were at home, they not only had to share the housework, but they even cooked! When I heard them talking about this, I was really shocked because I had never been in the kitchen..."

"I told my mother about this later. My mother said that my hands are different from others. I hold a pen, so there is no need to know these housework."

Jiang Hong said with emotion on his face.

Wang Dinglan, on the other hand, took it for granted. Facts have proved that he was right. The child's hands are for holding pens.

After all, entering state-owned enterprises is not something you can get into just by asking. It is all about the son's ability.

Lin Feng smiled slightly and felt a little emotional. Perhaps this discovery was Jiang Hong's first opportunity to think about his family relationship?
Sure enough, at this time Jiang Hong continued:
"Actually, my roommate taught me how to wash socks by hand and how to wash clothes in a washing machine. But when my mother found out, she felt very distressed and strongly asked me to take her home to wash for her on weekends. At that time, I thought something unpleasant had happened. But later I couldn’t resist my mother.”

Speaking of this, Wang Dinglan was confused. Is there such a thing?
Before she could think about it, Jiang Hong continued:

"My mother asked me to go home on weekends. On the one hand, she was worried that I wouldn't eat well at school and needed to supplement my nutrition. On the other hand, she wanted me to wash my clothes. It was all for my own good."

"However, I was actually not very happy at that time. Because on weekends and so on, my classmates would go out to play together, and I really wanted to participate."

"However, whenever I think that my mother is doing it for my own good, I can't bear to go against her opinion." At this point, Lin Feng nodded.

Seeing how much his mother has done for him, as a child, it is indeed difficult to remain indifferent. Jiang Hong's reaction is humane, but it is a disaster for the cultivation of his independent ability.

And Jiang Hong’s narrative continues:

"Then it's just work."

"I saw how my colleagues got along with their families, and that's when I realized that my situation seemed to be in the minority."

"Then I tried to do my own things, but whenever I did housework, my mother would take it away and do it for me."

"When I encountered this situation, I wanted to reason with my mother at first, but then I realized that my mother always treated me like a child and would not listen to my opinions. She always said that I was still young and she could still do it. Move something..."

When Lin Feng heard this, he didn't agree with Wang Dinglan's approach.

Parents always want to shield their children from the wind and rain for a lifetime, but they never thought that when they fall, their children will not grow up at all because of the shelter, so that they will not be able to stand on their own.

At this time, Jiang Hong finally expressed his problem with some trepidation:
"Teacher Lin, actually before connecting, I already had my own ideas."

"Oh?"

Lin Feng was shocked and nodded:

"You said."

"Actually, I've been failing a lot recently because of blind dates. After listening to the girls on blind dates..."

Jiang Hong said while carefully looking at his mother's face:
"I-I want to live separately from my parents and be independent, but my parents don't allow it, especially my mother."

After Lin Feng finished speaking, Wang Dinglan suddenly jumped up:

"Kid, silly kid! Those girls are not successful, why do you listen to them?"

"Oh, you have a soft ear. When you get married, you have to listen to your mother even more. In this world, the people who love you most must be your parents."

After the words fell, Lin Feng was speechless, and he also saw that Jiang Hong's face was red at this time and he could not speak.

So, Lin Feng shook his head and said directly:

"I have understood that on the surface, the problem in your family is that you can't find a partner, but deep down, there is a problem with family education."

After listening to Lin Feng's words, Jiang Hong's eyes suddenly showed the light of hope.

Wang Dinglan, on the other hand, looked at Lin Feng dumbfounded.

Isn't the original intention of participating in this program just to get Teacher Lin to stamp that there is no problem with my family's family education, and also to see if any girls are interested in my son?

How come there is a problem with my family’s family education now? !

"No, no, no, that's not the case, Teacher Lin!"

Wang Dinglan jumped:

"Did you misunderstand the meaning? There must be nothing wrong with our family!"

At this time, Jiang Jianguo was like a backdrop, showing no reaction from beginning to end.

At this moment, the audience in the live broadcast room looked at Lin Feng in the screen with some confusion.

"Is this also a problem with family education?!"

"Well, listen to his mother's words, it sounds familiar."

"Could it be...a mama's boy?!"

"Listen to what his mother said. As a daughter-in-law, it's really difficult to get along with her."

"Damn it, isn't this a problem with family education! Teacher Lin summed it up brilliantly!"

"Mama's boy?" After thinking about it, he put it into Jiang Hong's perspective. His mother had arranged everything in detail and he didn't have to worry about anything. It was quite comfortable, but from the girl's perspective, it was quite hard to accept. Looking for a husband, not a son."

"No wonder the conditions are very good, but there is no partner."

"Teacher Lin has already pointed out the problem, but Aunt Wang's reaction is great!"

"It seems like it's hard for Teacher Lin to convince their family."

"What would Teacher Lin do in this situation?"

"..."

Outside the live broadcast room, director Liu Yong looked at the family in the picture with some words.

When he just heard Lin Feng say that their family had a problem with their family education, he was not very surprised, because he had already seen that Jiang Hong had problems with his independent ability.

But I really didn’t think about the “mama’s boy” aspect.

But looking at Wang Dinglan’s reaction and the speeches of the audience in the live broadcast room, Liu Yong also agreed.

A mother with a strong personality, a silent father, and an honest and obedient child, aren't they the breeding ground for the birth of "Mama's boys"?
Fortunately, Jiang Hong had realized something and met Teacher Lin.

From a certain perspective, as his mother said, Jiang Hong was indeed lucky.

But looking at Wang Dinglan's stubborn look, Liu Yong became a little curious.

This family is more special than any family I have ever encountered——

Parents are very old, which means their thoughts are more solid.

"How would Teacher Lin convince their family in this situation?"

Liu Yong's tone was full of curiosity, not worry, because he believed in Lin Feng unconditionally.

Beside him, Wu Peng looked at Sun Wei in confusion and asked:
"Is it still a matter of family education? But Sister Sun, why didn't I hear anything? I even think that his mother is doing it all for Jiang Hong's benefit."

Sun Wei glanced at Wu Peng, thought for a moment, and asked him:

"Wu Peng, don't you think Jiang Hong is like a 'mama's boy'?"

Mom boy?
Of course Wu Peng knew this, and he also knew that if a man was called that by others, he would be scolded.

Then, he suddenly realized and slapped his forehead:
"That is indeed a problem of family education. Teacher Lin is right again!"

When Sun Wei saw Wu Peng like this, she knew that he didn't really understand.

But boys and girls definitely have different perspectives on looking at "mama's boys".

Boys will find it comfortable to be a mother's baby, but only girls can understand this fear of being dominated.

Thinking that the two people naturally had different attitudes, Sun Wei didn't want to say anything more.

However, this is where she went wrong, and boys don't like being a 'mama's boy'. Jiang Hong is the example in front of her.

Seeing that Sun Wei had stopped talking, Wu Peng felt a little puzzled and took the initiative to say:
"Sister Sun, why don't you speak? Aren't you curious about how Teacher Lin will convince their family? This aunt doesn't seem to be easy to convince!"

Sun Wei glanced at Lin Feng's profile and smiled slightly:
"There's no need to doubt Teacher Lin's ability, right? Just wait and see."

Wu Peng nodded, unable to find a topic, so he continued to stare at the screen.

At this time, Lin Feng looked at Wang Dinglan who was jumping, shook his head slightly and said:

"Aunt Wang, don't worry, let me analyze it for you."

Jiang Hong also grabbed his mother in time.

Wang Dinglan took a deep breath, and then stared at Lin Feng with a puzzled face, waiting for the next step.

She would like to hear that after she has reached this point, why is it still a matter of family education?
"Aunt Wang, it cannot be denied that you have sacrificed a lot for this family."

"Jiang Hong mentioned a detail. It's really not easy for you to take care of so many things after work."

Lin Feng's first sentence was to affirm Wang Dinglan's contribution.

When Wang Dinglan heard this, her face brightened a little, and she felt a little arrogant:
Isn't it?Most people are really not as capable as me!

At this time, Lin Feng said with concern:

"You have put in so much effort, but you are actually very tired, right?"

When Wang Dinglan heard this, she pursed her lips and smiled:
"It's okay. As a mother, don't you just give everything for your children?"

Lin Feng sighed slightly in his heart. In the family, all members are independent individuals. While the son cannot be independent, how can the mother have her own independent personality?

This is actually a problem for many families today!

So, Lin Feng changed the topic and said:

"Aunt Wang, I want you to realize one thing: your behavior actually deprives your child of his independence."

"Look, Jiang Hong didn't even know how to wash socks or use a washing machine when he went to college. This was obviously an abnormal sign. But instead of noticing, you made a one-size-fits-all decision - if you don't know how to do it, just bring it back and cook it for your mother. .”

"Such sweeping measures are actually hurting children without even realizing it."

Lin Feng looked at Wang Dinglan and said sincerely:
"You should realize that Jiang Hong's current problem is not whether to get married or not, but that he must start to develop his own independent ability from now on."

"You can replace him for a while, but you can't replace him forever."

Lin Feng sighed softly and then said:

"Because parents are the fate of their children, and they are both half-way. Children accompany their parents for the second half of their lives, and parents accompany their children for the first half of their lives. After all, it cannot last throughout."

"Please think about it, in the future when you are gone, who can make such detailed arrangements for him?"

"He knows nothing, so what should he do when faced with such a huge gap?"

After the words fell, the expressions on the faces of the family of three changed, and they seemed to be deep in thought.

Finally, the connection fell silent...

(End of this chapter)