tenth year of teaching

Chapter 217
In early summer, I tutored Jiang Qi for two months, at least three times a week, taking breaks at noon.

Jiang Qi's eyes gradually softened when he looked at Chu Xia. During this period, he also tried many times, such as deliberately not handing in homework, failing in dictation, or lying on the desk in class, etc.But no matter how hard he tried, Chu Xia never lost her temper with him again.Every time, he was called to the front alone and asked: "Why was the homework not handed in? Is it too difficult to do?" "Who failed the test today?" "Why did he lie down on the table in class? Is it because he was listening?" Don’t you understand?”

Once again, Jiang Qi was called to the front alone after class to explain the problem-solving process again, and Jiang Qi finally asked. "Teacher, does this reaction break the carbon-oxygen single bond first? Then I understand."

"You really know how to do it?" There was surprise in Chu Xia's eyes.

"I really know how to do it." Jiang Qi looked at Chu Xia firmly.

On weekends, when Jiang Qi is at home with her mother, she usually listens to music and plays games with headphones.Mother Jiang cut a plate of dragon fruit, knocked on the door, and walked in.

"Qiqi, eat some fruit."

Jiang Qi glanced casually but said nothing.

Mother Jiang was a little excited and ready to go out, "Mom, thank you."

She turned to look at her son, her eyes sparkling with tears of excitement.How many years has it been since I heard my son call me mom?It seems like when I was a child, she was softly close to me and called my mother, and she was still hugging my waist and looking up.She rubbed her son's furry head and said dotingly: "Son, can you wait until mom sells a few more cows to buy you a big plane?"

"Okay." The childish voice that had just changed had a hint of childishness and hoarseness.

When my son was ten years old, he would go to the farm to be with his parents every holiday.The family drove their cattle on the grassland, which experienced a drought every three years and another drought for three years.At that time, the life of the nomads was not very good, and they often could not make ends meet.

Then my father became anxious, and the two of them were no longer what they used to be. They would quarrel every three days, and they would quarrel every three days.The relationship had long since disappeared in the constant quarrels. Jiang Qi became more and more silent. He knew that his parents had problems before.He never spoke or participated in the arguments.

When asked who he followed after his parents divorced, he just remained silent.Later, when we returned to Yuyang, my mother was not familiar with it, so she awkwardly discussed with my father that he should accompany me back there. After all, it was my father's hometown and there were relatives and friends he was familiar with.

But what she didn't expect was that men would choose to be decadent when they no longer have a career.From the very beginning, he suspected that his mother was having an affair with another man. In fact, he was just a dealer from out of town who he met in order to sell cattle.In order to sell more cows, she also learned to drink with others, and she became more and more generous at the banquet.Of course, there would be men who saw her attending a banquet alone and made some dirty jokes. Which banquet would have someone who wouldn't make such jokes?

She got over the alcohol one by one, what else?What can be done?The son and father are thousands of miles away, and the family no longer has the support of men, leaving only one woman to provide the main source of income.My own grievances are increasing, my father's incomprehension makes my son more and more resentful.

She suspected that she had made the wrong choice, so she turned into a middle-aged resentful woman full of complaints while hesitating.It finally turned into what it is now. This year, when the teacher gave feedback about Qiqi's current situation again, she made up her mind to come to Yuyang to accompany her son.As for the cattle, as for Dad, let the man handle everything himself.

The two of them have changed their roles, let's understand each other.It's been a few months since my father went back, and the two of them have less quarrels, and both of them have discovered how difficult it is for the other.But perhaps it is truly a man's talent that his income from selling cattle has increased instead of decreasing.The mother was relieved and focused on taking care of her son, and did not think about finding a job again.

Now that she heard Jiang Qi call her mother again, she felt sad and felt that no matter how much she paid, this moment was worth it.Jiang Qi turned around and saw that her mother was still stunned at the door. She pursed her lips and took off her earphones. She curled her lips and said, "I know, Mom, I'll study right now. I've memorized the book in the morning and just typed for less than an hour. From now on, I'll do it by myself." Will pay attention."

"Oh, okay. Qiqi, mom, mom will cook for you." Mother Jiang rubbed the corners of her eyes, quickly closed the door and went out.The cheerful sounds of pots and pans rang out from the kitchen, and a hint of warmth finally came out of the cold home.

"Teacher Chu, Jiang Qi has become better and better recently and can take the initiative to study at home."

Listening to Jiang's mother's excited voice, Chu Xia was also very happy: "Thanks to you for staying, Jiang Qi has become more and more soft recently. How can I say it? He is soft. Unlike before, he was always stubborn towards the people around him and said nothing. Or you just talk back. You have indeed sacrificed a lot for your children, and recently your children have stopped saying things like quitting school and dropping out of school."

"Teacher, I know you have been tutoring Qiqi with her homework at noon. Teachers can take so much trouble. As parents, shouldn't we make some efforts? I regret it very much. I should have come to accompany Qiqi earlier." Mother Jiang's voice choked up. stand up.

After hanging up the phone, Chu Xia was very relieved to finally see Jiang Qi's change.Sometimes, rough and harsh management may have some short-term effects, and the teacher can save trouble and worry.It's just that such a child really needs to be with you for a long time, so that he can see your dedication, and then he will slowly open his heart and accept your own help.

When she typed the topic "On the independent learning of disadvantaged students in urban high schools in BJ City", the first thing that came to mind was Jiang Qi's change.Patience, peace and praise, she thought about it, these three core words.

During the more than ten years that Jiang Qi was growing up, his parents spent less time with him and cared for him. Therefore, the lack of warmth during the critical period of growth caused his withdrawn character.And because of his unsatisfactory grades, he has never been cared about by his teachers. In addition, he is not good at talking and cannot get the attention of his peers among students.

She thought for a while and recounted the situation when Jiang Qi was first divided into classes and told the teacher that he would volunteer to be transferred to the last class and sit alone.This is obviously the mentality that the circle does not accept me, and I also disdain to integrate into the circle.

It should be said that his current changes are the result of the joint efforts of parents and school, as well as the company of his mother and the unique attention of his teachers.Make him willing to take the initiative to express himself, be willing to integrate into the class group, and start to become cheerful.

Once again in class, Chu Xia finally felt relieved when she saw him starting to answer questions and taking the initiative to ask questions to his classmates after the discussion.Maybe Jiang Qi won't be able to get into a key university in the future, but his changes should have an impact on his future life. That would be a lot better, right?

In early summer, I started to record my own stories in front-line teaching in the form of projects or papers, including research on weak students, methods of implementing certain ability points in ordinary high schools, the impact of family background factors on students, etc.In her narration, she began to reflect on her own methods, and then adjusted her mentality little by little to treat students more patiently and peacefully.

(End of this chapter)