Beauty and Marriage

Chapter 150
Even the field of raising children, which she is best at, is often unreasonably interfered by those of us who think that we have read two more books and obtained the most correct information.

For example, if a mother carries a bowl and chases the child to feed, we will say that it is because of her that the child is spoiled!Let him be hungry if he doesn't eat, and he will eat naturally when he is hungry.Chasing him like this all the time will only make him develop a bad habit. On the one hand, he said so, and on the other hand, he bought a lot of snacks for the child.

When my mother said that we shouldn't buy snacks, I also felt that we shouldn't. However, I didn't spend much time with him, so I always felt sorry for him if I didn't buy something to make up for it.Most children today are autonomous.Around two years old, they will choose what to play and eat by themselves.When Haohao was so old, he would take the jelly and weigh it by himself, although the jelly clearly stated that children under 3 years old are not suitable for eating.

But when my mother took Haohao out to play, she teased Haohao and gave him a big jelly. Haohao insisted on eating it, so his mother opened it and fed him small bites with a spoon. He liked the taste very much. Yes, every time I go to the supermarket and see it, I have to buy it.

If you don't buy it for him, he will weigh it himself!
Of course, this matter will also be discussed by us. It is clearly written that it is not suitable for children under the age of 3, so why give it to children.If you don't give it to him for the first time, he won't know the taste.Now that I know the taste, if I don’t buy it for him, he will cry and fuss, and it doesn’t look good in the supermarket.

Dad and his dad would buy it as soon as he said it, so as not to make trouble, we would reason with him and do work, but most of the time we still failed, so we had to buy it for him!On rare occasions, he would agree to buy something else.

The big ones are already like this, and the small ones will definitely learn.

The younger ones depend on what they want when they grow up, and the older ones have what they must, so Xiaobao and Shiyun started eating jelly when they were almost two years old!
The first child was used as a role model, but he was led astray by his mother from the very beginning!Therefore, we often say that grandma doesn't know how to take care of children, and she brings them up badly!

Then such remarks are almost overwhelmingly supported in the society. The children brought up by grandma are squeamish, and the children brought up by grandma are spoiled. The children brought up by grandma will definitely get what they want. Selfish.

When it comes to selfishness, it sounds nicer, but it just doesn't know how to share.

Mother took Haohao, and always insisted on Haohao eating whatever was delicious, and she would not move a single bite, even if the last thing was left or was thrown away by Haohao.

For example, shrimps. For a while, Haohao liked to eat shrimps. Every time he bought a catty of shrimps, his mother could eat them all for Haohao alone.joke!He is just a two-year-old kid who eats a pound of shrimp. I don't know what my mother thinks.

Even if it is a good thing, can you eat so much?
I thought peeling the shrimp shells was very troublesome, so I didn't want to eat them, but there were only three of us at the dinner table, she didn't eat them, and just peeled them for Haohao to eat alone. I was afraid that the child would spoil them, so I had to follow suit.

Haohao looked at me.

I asked him "Can't I eat?"

Mom said, "Auntie can eat, there are so many!"

Haohao said "Yes!" Although he said yes, he said "I can give you one!"

"Can I only eat one? Why do you give me one? You are not alone in this shrimp!"

I picked up two more, and Haohao took the plate away.

Mom hurriedly took the plate, afraid that Haohao would knock it over, and said, "Grandma will hold it for you, and my aunt won't grab you!"

"What do you mean I grab it?" I was very unhappy. "Is it good for him to eat such a big plate of shrimps by himself? Eating too much of anything is harmful to his body. You keep peeling him and eating it all the time." , Already ate a dozen of them! How old is he, and you are such an adult, can you eat a dozen of them?"

"Don't eat!" My mother knew after I told him, so she asked Haohao to eat something else.

Haohao said he wanted to eat shrimp, so I glared at him, and he crawled into his mother's arms!

I don't want to be cruel to my mother, let alone Haohao, but I really can't stand such behavior.If Mom didn't do it in the first place, I wouldn't be like this!
Regret after losing your temper!
But two days later, Haohao went to check the trace elements, and the result was that the lead content was dozens of times higher. The doctor said that he could no longer eat shrimps, crabs, and shellfish. I felt that I was right.Mom also really realized that she was wrong.

After that, because of the child's affairs, we said that the mother became more confident. She only knew how to feed the child without restraint, and sometimes she had no restraint in clothing.

Before being told by the doctor, she always felt that she was right. When we told her, she said that we were brought up by her.

After the doctor said, she didn't know how to take care of the child.Especially when we look at her.

Sometimes I hold the child's bowl and watch the child playing over there, instead of chasing the child to eat, but call the child after a while, and call him again after a while.

Feeding food to children means that if they stutter, they will stop eating this dish and eat something else, and then the child will say that they want to eat this dish, but they don’t know whether they should eat it or not!
I suddenly thought of Mrs. Xianglin written by Mr. Lu Xun. In fact, for so many years, I haven’t fully understood many of Mr. Lu Xun’s articles, including the character of Mrs. Xianglin. I have always followed the character written in the reference book Analyze the back answers.Now I seem to have a little understanding of myself.

She is a typical example of being forced to depend on others for her life!Women in that era obeyed their father at home, their husbands when they got married, and their sons when they grew old.Her resistance is useless, she has the life she wants, the life she wants to live, but she is restrained, her resistance is regarded as a different kind, after all, she can only live according to what everyone regards as normal and correct way of living to live.If it hadn't been for the successive deaths of her husband and son, she might have lived like that for the rest of her life.According to the settings made for women in that era.

It was not the misfortune of her husband and son that crushed her in the end.

It was she who wanted to gain friends and confidants, and she did not hesitate to dissect the pain of losing her son. I can be sure that she did not sell suffering for the sake of selling suffering.At first, she must have been asked by someone else.It was only later that she found that people were willing to listen to her tell this unfortunate story. Some expressed sympathy, some expressed sadness, and some paid attention to her, that's all!

People I know are always trying to hide their misfortune, but she mistakenly thinks that her misfortune will bring her care, so she repeatedly brings it up, repeats it, and repeatedly deepens the matter. The matter lies in her own wounded heart.

(End of this chapter)