Going through the book and raising younger siblings

Chapter 132 Education
131. Education
"Then let her be bullied?"

"No, we have to use wisdom to resolve it."

"For people like my mother-in-law, how can I use wisdom to solve it?"

"Yingzi, before, I didn't know your mother-in-law's personality. Through observation and thinking during this period, let me tell you whether it fits her personality."

"you say!"

"Your mother-in-law has also been soaked in bitter waters in this life. Her husband died young. In those years, her eldest son was sick again. She herself has been sick for so many years. She has a lot of depression in her heart, so she is mean to others. She He is narrow-minded, withdrawn, ignorant, and loves money like his life."

"Yes, big girl, your conclusion is too correct."

"How about Yingzi for this kind of person! It's easy to deal with."

"How to deal with it, teach me quickly, I am too difficult."

"This kind of person is a master who sees other people's dishes. First of all, you have to stand up and let her know that you are not easy to bully. You have to have a bottom line and principles, and you can't touch it. For example, if you are so yin and yang like that day, you can't bear it. For example, money, keep it by yourself, especially now, you just got back 2 yuan from her. In her view, this money is hers. You can’t let her have this illusion that what’s yours is yours. It doesn't matter to her, don't rush to please her at this time, otherwise, she will think that this matter is your fault, within a month, don't take the initiative to pay attention to her, don't give a penny to the family, and let her hang out. "

"Not only that, but you also have to say some side-talking things, for example, whose wife doesn't work at home and is supported by her husband, and the husband buys her something, Ling Feng buys things for you, don't be polite, the husband makes money Isn’t it just for my wife? If he doesn’t buy it, you have to take the initiative to mention it. It’s impossible to rely on him to take the initiative. Don’t think about what your husband needs, don’t say it, and then get sulking if you don’t get it. Many stupid women That’s it, if you have a need, say it! Tell him! Then you get it, and you will be very satisfied and happy, and his sense of value will come out. A man needs to be recognized, that is, his sense of self-worth, let him pay, Then satisfy his sense of value, he is happy, and you are also happy, why not do it!"

"In this way, while Ling Feng still has a little bit of guilt towards you, let him spend money for you, buy clothes, jewelry, and no one at home to do housework, hire a nanny, let him spend money. Make his money hard, let He has a sense of value.”

Yingzi: "Didn't you talk about how to deal with your mother-in-law? It's Ling Feng."

"If you want to make Ling Feng pay attention to you, no matter what method you use, you need your wisdom. A man has a low nature in his bones. If you obey him, he will find it boring and indifferent to you. Do a little bit, of course take care of it, but he is willing to pay for you, husband treats you well, and mother-in-law sees it, so she doesn't dare to make too much trouble to you."

"Now let's go back to my mother-in-law. When she realizes that you are not a soft persimmon, and she can't shake your position in her son's heart, she has to adjust her own mentality and position in order to stay comfortably in this home. , at this time, you just need to make a small plan, such as giving her some benefits, giving her 20 yuan a month as pocket money, it’s really just pocket money, let your son pay for the household, mother-in-law who hasn’t spent much in her life, Of course I'm happy."

"This money can't be given too much. It's not that the more you give, the better. At present, it's 20 yuan a month, and you can only give it after two months. If you can't give it now, just give it. Don't buy clothes or anything like that. People, if you give her 20 yuan, it will make her happier than buying her something worth 50 yuan."

"If there is a child in the future, if she helps take care of the child, add another ten yuan. If she can't take care of the child, ask a nanny to take care of it. Let Ling Feng pay for the nanny's fee. You still give your mother-in-law money every month, and this money Don't make her feel that you owe her what you have to give her. If she makes you unhappy that month, you won't pay it, give her money, and let her make you unhappy. What is the reason for this? The mother-in-law spent money? Very little! Beat her, let her be content and cherish it."

Yingzi said in embarrassment: "This is too difficult and complicated. I would rather go to work and tire myself out than spend all my thoughts on it. It takes too much brain."

"Being able to work is related to whether you can make money, have enough food, and whether you can handle family relationships well. It is related to whether you can get family happiness. A good marriage relationship is managed by heart. People who are physically lazy People who are bound to be poor, who find it troublesome to be sophisticated, who don’t want to work hard, are bound to be burdened by sophistication, hurt by others, engulfed by the so-called fate and drift with the tide and cannot be independent. As long as you live among the crowd, you must work hard to learn how to get along with the people around you Otherwise, you will only be beaten to death."

"Okay, okay, I will learn, and I must learn well."

When he got home, Ling Feng saw Yingzi and greeted her, "Yingzi, you're back! Hurry up and have dinner!"

She went to the kitchen and saw that there was only a little green vegetable soup with a few leaves floating in it.

Mingming told him that she would go home for dinner tonight, but they didn't wait for her and only left some soup for her.

As usual, she didn't care about it, and just ate the meal with vegetable soup, but she was educated by the big girl just now, if there is no change at all, then her education is not in vain.

Seeing Yingzi in a daze, Ling Feng said, "We've already eaten it, so hurry up and eat it!"

She wanted to say, nothing, what to eat, but she thought, the big girl told her, no matter what the situation, don't speak with emotion.

Yingzi rubbed his arms: "Lingfeng, I'm too tired today, and I don't want to eat. You can give me a bowl of noodles! Add a poached egg, the doctor said, I need nutrition now."

Yingzi said, sitting on the stool, closing his eyes and resting his mind, looking very weak.

Ling Feng looked at Yingzi, felt compassion, and quickly made a bowl of noodles with a poached egg on top.

The mother-in-law heard it outside, and her lungs were about to explode with anger, but there was nothing she could do. The daughter-in-law just came back, and if she ran away in anger again, the son would never end with her.

In the kitchen, Yingzi was eating noodles contentedly, and at the same time told Ling Feng that she would open a shop tomorrow.

"Ling Feng, have you tasted those breads and pastries? How do they taste? If it were you, would you pay for them?"

"The taste is really good. If it were me, I would certainly be willing to spend money on it. We can't afford it now."

"I heard from the big girl that you are making a lot of money now! Why is there only a little vegetable soup at home? Ling Feng, Mom is not in good health and needs to eat better. Give Mom some money and ask her to buy more When the food comes back, there must be no less meat and eggs in every meal, and if you earn money, you don’t spend it, so why do you make money?”

(End of this chapter)