After retiring from the circle, I became famous by live broadcast farming

Xie Ning found that since she first responded to a fan's question in a private message a few months ago, she has received private messages from different fans from all over the country from time to time. They seem to regard her as a close sister, a confidant, a A guide on the lost road.

Xie Ning didn't find it annoying, but he developed a habit of answering fans' questions every day.

The system said that since she bound it and registered live broadcast with Penguin account, whether it is her live broadcast or her reply to private messages, in fact, all her actions are filled with energy.

This kind of energy is invisible to the naked eye, but it will bring the positive and beautiful positive energy she conveys to fans across the Internet.

Therefore, every time Xie Ning sees doubts and questions from fans, he will seriously think about it and reply after careful consideration.

Although he didn't experience empathy, Xie Ning understands how important it is to have personal guidance when a person is confused. It is important to work hard, but it is more important to find the direction of life.

Only when the direction is right can we go down unswervingly, and such efforts are more meaningful.

Opening the private message, as expected, I saw several private messages.

Xie Ning picked up the pillow and put it on his back, leaned slightly on the bed, and began to read and reply.

After an unknown amount of time, Xie Ning clicked on the last private message marked in red.

[Sister Xie, hello, I like watching your live broadcast very much.May I ask, do you look good?Although you wore a mask during the live broadcast, I think you should be good-looking.But what should I do if I don’t look good since I was a child, I’m like an ugly duckling, an ugly duckling is an ugly duckling after all, it’s a different kind from a swan, no matter how hard I try, I can’t become a swan. 】

【...Thank you sister, I have put in a lot of hard work, but why am I still so ugly in the eyes of others, and in my own eyes? What should I do to become beautiful and make others like me? ,Can you tell me? 】

It was a very long private letter, in which a girl told about her experience of becoming beautiful, and she seemed to be confused.

After reading it, Xie Ning was indeed stunned for a while.

Suddenly, a word "appearance anxiety" sounded.

Xie Ning knew the word because of Ruan Zhenzhen.

Before Ruan Zhenzhen was anxious about her own appearance, she spent a lot of time maintaining her face and figure every day, and even thought about having plastic surgery.

At that time, Xie Ning didn't understand that Ruan Zhenzhen was actually very delicate and cute, so why was she still anxious about her appearance?
Ruan Zhenzhen glared at her at that time, and said: "You think everyone is as beautiful as you. However, even those big beauties and handsome guys in the entertainment industry sometimes have appearance anxiety. Well, don't pay attention to these, but many people, especially girls, really care about it."

Ruan Zhenzhen said that many girls have appearance anxiety.

I will be afraid that I am not good enough, that I am not confident in front of the boy I like, and that I am not worthy and cannot be liked by him.

I will be afraid that my ordinary or even slightly flawed appearance will attract criticism and disgust from others.

……

Good-looking girls always seem to be easier to get preferential treatment, and fat, average-looking girls with tall and handsome boyfriends are always said to be toads eating swan meat, and boys will be bad-mouthed It must not be true love for girls, boys will abandon girls one day and leave.

This is indeed what is now commonly seen, the apparent reality.

There is also the effect of the spotlight. Whether it is society, news, or life, there always seems to be a voice urging girls to become beautiful. You must have an A4 waist and a pointed chin...

All the voices are telling you that you have to become more beautiful.

So appearance anxiety arises.

To be honest, Xie Ning really didn't worry about her appearance. Is it because she is good-looking, or is she in a good mood?

Xie Ning thought it should be the latter.

In fact, when she was young, especially when she was six or seven years old, little Xie Ning hadn't grown up yet, and her family liked to feed her, which made her very fat, and was even laughed at by other children because she was too fat.

What did she think at that time?

Have you ever cried because of this?It seems not.

I don't know if it's because her family members often praise her, give her kisses and hugs, and always say in front of her: My granddaughter/daughter/sister is the prettiest.

As time went by, she was somewhat trustworthy when she was little.

Fat is fat, even if I am fat, I am the most beautiful in the eyes of my family, and I also think that I am the most beautiful.

At that time, she was raised by her family's love, and her mentality was really good.

Looking back now, Xie Ning still doesn't think he was ugly or unattractive back then.

Xie Ning thought, probably because of love, because of the affirmation of her family, because her family loved her, because she also loved her chubby and not so good-looking self at that time.

Therefore, people will be anxious about their appearance. In the final analysis, it is a lack of affirmation and love. This love comes from others and from themselves.

But in fact, the love and affirmation from oneself is the most important thing.

However, over time, we are used to living in the eyes of others and ourselves in words, but we forget that loving and affirming ourselves is more important than others loving and affirming ourselves!

However, people who live in other people's eyes, evaluations and words are too tired.

Xie Ning thought for a while, weighed his words, tapped the keyboard with his fingertips, and replied——

【Honey, I don’t know who you are, but I’m glad you like me. You have worked hard and been brave enough to summon up the courage to private message me and share your experiences and feelings.I also hope that my next one or two small suggestions can bring you another direction of thinking and reference. 】

[I think of a sentence I once saw: Roses are beautiful, but you don’t have to grow into roses. If you want, you can be a daisy, a sunflower, or a nameless flower on the side of a country road. You can do tens of millions, be ordinary, ordinary and unique yourself. 】

【Rose is beautiful, but other flowers are equally beautiful. It is these colorful flowers with different colors and postures that create a beautiful and hopeful spring.The flowering period of each flower is different, just like everyone, their own flowering period is also different, you don't need to envy others when they bloom, just wait for your flowering period. 】

[Not everyone loves roses. Even if the ugly duckling cannot turn into a swan, it is unique. Perhaps, in this world, there are people who like ugly ducklings, not just swans. Even if no one likes ugly ducklings in the end, then The ugly duckling can also like himself.Everyone has their own unique beauty, maybe it is appearance, maybe it is temperament, maybe it is self-cultivation, maybe it is character... What we have to do is to have a pair of eyes to discover our own beauty. Beauty is first for yourself to see, and secondly It is for others to see.Just like the saying, love yourself first if you love others, and please yourself first if you please others. 】