My secret love for Bai Yueguang turned out to be my blind date

Chapter 177 Marriage and Love

On June [-]st, the new book launch of "Lecture Notes on Modern Philosophical Thought".

It is not so much a press conference as it is a symposium on new books. College students with official registrations and media workers are invited.

On the stage, there was a group of four who had been drinking and chatting as confidants a few days ago, and Ma Xi played the role of host.

Firstly, this is indeed Ma Xi's main business, and secondly, Ma Xi is the most famous among the crowd, and it is most suitable to be used to join the scene to enliven the atmosphere.

On the stage, Xu Qingyuan was talking about the "perspectivism" in Su Ye's book. This concept originated from Nietzsche. It can be roughly understood that we cannot look at the facts objectively, and what we see is only a part of ourselves.This concept is very suitable for Xu Qingyuan's appetite, because one of his words out of the circle is: each of us looks at the world with prejudice.

Seeing that what Xu Qingyuan said was similar, Ma Xi decided to control the topic. As a media practitioner, he understands that overly professional discussions are not conducive to communication. This is undoubtedly a sad fact.Now is an era of entertainment to the death, even if the really good things want to spread, they need to pay attention to the method.

"Today I saw a lot of young people. How many of them have a significant other? You can raise your hand."

All of a sudden, there were very few hands raised in the audience.

Seeing this, it fell into Ma Xi's arms, and Ma Xi laughed, "It seems that I asked a good question. About marriage and love, Professor Su has discussed it in the book, but before that, is there any classmate? Can you tell me why you don't fall in love?"

After a while, a girl took the microphone from the staff, "I personally think that we exaggerate the greatness and necessity of love, because love is not so eternal and great. I read a British novel "One day" a long time ago , in which the heroine Emma silently liked Dexter as a friend for eight years, and finally gave up everything in Paris because of Dexter's words. At this time, Emma's life is stable, and Dexter is just A middle-aged frustrated man. This man was the love of Emma's life, but found his next partner two years after Emma's death.

I don't think that after the death of my partner, I shouldn't look for it, but I don't think it's worth it for Emma, ​​or for love.Or, as Socrates said, the hottest love has the coldest ending?Love may be noble in one's heart, but if it is not cherished, it is better not to destroy this beauty. "

After the girl's speech, there was a moment of silence, and Ma Xi took the initiative to ask again, "Is there any other students who want to chat?"

Another boy took the microphone, "I like a movie "Jojo's Fantastic World", there is a line in it that describes love like this: One day you will have it, and then you will only have her in your heart You will meet someone, and you will be immersed in your dreams every day, dreaming of the feeling of holding her in your arms again, this is love. I am looking forward to the day when my heart can be filled with someone, and I don’t want to start easily , or I don’t want to settle down, I want to talk about a love from falling in love to getting married.”

After another four or five people finished their speeches, Ma Xi regained control and just made a joke, "I used to hear people say that love in big cities is full of considerations, and it seems that I have come into contact with it today. Then let's hear what Professor Su is How do you think about it?"

Su Ye didn't have stage fright, took the microphone, and asked, "Before I start, I want to hear how the three married people think about love and marriage?"

"Let me say it first." Zhong Shanhe said with a smile, "Our generation is deeply influenced by "The Wrangler". There is a saying in it called: There will be bread, and everything will be there. It is about two people who love each other and work together. In the story, the relationship between the two is simple and firm, this is what my ideal marriage and love look like."

When Su Ye turned his eyes, the unruly Xu Qingyuan was a little shy, "My love enlightenment is the Soviet novel "The Blind Musician". In it, the blind musician and Aiwei Lina's childhood sweetheart, finally got married because of love. This makes me love Believe that love is about waiting, about being able to love you beyond anything, whether you are healthy or disabled.”

"What about Brother Ma?"

Ma Xi laughed, "Maybe love is misfortune? Because the true sign of love is to be willing to share all misfortunes with the lover, which is cruel to the other half. Well, I'm talking nonsense. If my family hears it, it's not good , or hand over the microphone to Professor Su."

There was a burst of good-natured laughter from the audience, and then they focused their attention on Su Ye. After all, Su Ye is the protagonist today.

"Actually, finding love is not difficult. A little bit of phenylethylamine, a little bit of dopamine, and a little bit of adrenaline. But why didn't we find love? We didn't get married because of impulse." The audience's attention was drawn to himself, "In the Middle Ages in the West, love and marriage were separated. The point of view at that time was that the spirit of marriage was responsibility, protecting property and maintaining family continuity. Some even said that love would corrupt this serious Responsibility.

At that time, there was a kind of love court in France that adjudicated love disputes for nobles. It is said that there was such a judgment that after a noble woman married her lover, she could start looking for a new lover.Because there is no love in marriage, marriage means the end of the love relationship between two people.

In ancient my country, except for a few open dynasties, most of the marriage and love were separated. The two married couples had never met before they got married. As long as the parents' order and the matchmaker's words were enough.It was not until modern times that the East and the West had the concept of marriage for love, and now people have full freedom of marriage, or freedom of choice, and I can decide whether to have love and whether to enter into marriage. "

Speaking of this, the students below nodded frequently. This is why Su Ye was explaining why love and marriage have decreased.

Su Ye continued, "But the root of the withering of love does not lie in this. It is caused by various reasons. It is not letting go, it is the measurement of gains and losses, and it is distrust. This is an era of pleasure, and you have more ways to replace love. and companionship. People settle for the comfort of their fellow-mates and give up their desire for others. So what’s the solution?”

"law."

"contract."

"Economic independence, personal freedom."

Listening to the divergent voices below, Su Ye smiled, "Actually, there is no relatively correct answer, because perspectivism tells us that we cannot accurately view objects. If you want me to say that the beginning of marriage and love is based on commitment, and The basis of being able to maintain it is also a commitment. Commitment, a Chinese promise, I used to translate it as: a voluntary obligation that needs to be followed. When both of us can regard care and love as a voluntary obligation, I think love and marriage will It just happened naturally."

Just like what Su Ye did to Jiang Baizhi, he gave because he liked, because of love, although he wanted to get Jiang Baizhi's heart, but he didn't want to get it, but wanted to give.But not everyone will have such good luck as Su Ye, many people also gave, but did not get what they love.

So Su Ye's answer is a very idealistic answer, only cute people would think so.

But Su Ye looked around and found that many people were showing rewarding smiles. He thought, there are still many cute people.

But at this time, Ma Xi saw the stitches and said, "Professor Su's lecture is very good, and more detailed explanations are in the book. You can go back and recommend it to your friends. Come and buy Professor Su's book."

There was a burst of laughter from the audience, obviously one second it was sunny and snowy, and the next second it was real life
(End of this chapter)