Medical skills help me win the arrogant husband

Chapter 422 Fang is not a good wife
No matter how much I envy Gu Wu, I can't learn it.Every time Gu Wu organizes a banquet, he can always get praises from mouth to mouth. However, no matter how carefully I organize a banquet, I will always receive different voices of criticism afterwards.

Sister Yun's full moon banquet, my husband said I shouldn't neglect his concubine sister.I feel a little wronged, my husband is a concubine, I can't remember what she looks like, how can I entertain her?Is it possible that I have to leave the noble lady in the whole house to entertain her alone?I explained to my husband that she is just a concubine, so is it necessary to take it so seriously?

But my husband's face darkened. Although he didn't accuse me aloud, I knew that my husband was dissatisfied with me for neglecting his concubine sister.

I was a little aggrieved, and couldn't help but went back to my mother's house to find my mother and cry.

My mother scolded me, I shouldn't be so snobby.It is precisely because it is only a concubine, and there is no threat to me, so I should entertain others with the demeanor of being a sister-in-law.

You know, in this world, it is easy to add flowers to the cake, but it is difficult to give charcoal in the snow.The charcoal sent out in the snow is worth twice as much as the icing on the cake.

It's just a concubine's sister, even if I donate to her and get her gratitude, what good will it do me?
I am a little puzzled.

My mother scolded me bitterly: "I have never seen such a short-sighted person. You are the wife of the Su family. In the future, you will be the matriarch of the family who will support the mighty Marquis Wu's family. You must broaden your horizons and broaden your mind. When dealing with rich relatives and friends, Reciprocity is enough. To treat poor relatives, not to mention asking you to help them, at least, to give some help within your ability is your responsibility, and it is your pattern. Poor relatives do not necessarily ask you to help them, but give them basic respect Not only your pattern, but also your most basic etiquette. If you can't even do this, how can you be a good housewife?"

The mother used Gu Wu again as an example: "Look at Gu Wu. His background and husband's family are similar to yours. Why can he form a good relationship and get unanimous praise? You go outside to find out? How does Gu Wu treat those concubines? Sister-in-law's."

Thinking that Gu Wu would bring a few concubine sisters-in-law to attend no matter where he went, I stopped talking.

The mother said again: "Your uncle is certainly playful, but you still have the basic responsibilities as a man. This really impresses me. Don't you claim to be virtuous? Don't be defeated by this snobbery."

I was so trained by my mother that I couldn't lift my head up.

Later, when Gu Wu gave birth to his daughter, I also went to the banquet at Duke Huguo's mansion, and I really felt that Gu Wu treated every guest equally, regardless of their status.

I also saw the married concubine sister of the Chu family, and the elders and wives of the Chu family, also came back to help greet the guests with all their heart and responsibility.

Looking at Gu Wu's relationship with my sister-in-law, I realized that I still have a lot to learn.

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In my whole life, I gave birth to five sons and two daughters, but two sons and one daughter died young.So much so that the surviving children are quite different in age from the concubine.I was once worried that it would cause chaos among the concubines.

Fortunately, my worries did not materialize.

After the mean and arrogant mother-in-law left, the husband had to observe a filial piety for three months.In the past three months, he had never set foot in the concubine's house.

Less than a year after my mother-in-law left, the uncle of the first room gradually became seriously ill. Although Su Lan had adopted the second room, she still went to serve him every day. For this reason, the parents-in-law didn't say a word, which made me very emotional. The size of the in-laws is beyond my imagination.

My parents also went there more than three years ago. Su Lan, as a son-in-law, helped with the funeral arrangements, contributed money and energy, and took the initiative to stay to keep watch.

In winter in the capital, splashing water turns into ice. Even though there is a charcoal fire in the mourning hall, people are still too cold. After several nights of guarding, Su Lan caught the wind and cold.But he still held on to his sick body, insisted on finishing the funeral together with his natal siblings, and took care of him for half a month before he recovered.

My eldest brother said to me privately: "I used to hate my brother-in-law, and thought he was too careless. My elder sister felt wronged by following him. Now it seems that I was wrong. My brother-in-law is still very responsible." At the end, he added , "On the feminine side, I'm a bit more indulgent."

The Fang family took the route of studying, and stipulated that Fang's sons and daughters could only take concubines if they were over forty and had no children.Therefore, my two younger brothers did not take concubines.There are two common rooms that are not suitable, unlike my courtyard, the [-]th courtyard, the [-]th courtyard and the [-]th courtyard are all full of concubines.

However, if you want to say that Su Lan is lustful, since his mother-in-law left, he has not set foot in the concubine's house since he was not yet in his forties.

Although this man is a bit lecherous, I still can't hate him, and I took care of him personally during his illness.

To my surprise, after my husband recovered from his illness, he sent out all the young and beautiful concubines.Concubines with children or elderly concubines stayed.

I asked in astonishment, "Master Hou, is he really willing?"

Su Lan said indifferently: "Before his death, father-in-law asked me to treat you well."

I didn't expect my father to be so reluctant to let me go, and I couldn't help but shed tears.

Although I am the eldest daughter, I did not inherit the advantages of my parents. If I am not successful in literature, I will not be successful in martial arts. If I am not outstanding in everything, I will marry into a high-ranking family, and I will also embarrass the Fang family.Now, the girls of the Fang family use me as a negative example.I always thought that my parents must be ashamed of me, but I never thought that my father would still think of me before he died.

Su Lan waited for me to cry, and then said: "Father-in-law said that because you are the eldest daughter, they expect too much from you, so the requirements are strict, but they forgot, too much, so that they put too much pressure on you, instead Backfired."

I couldn't restrain my tears. I was sad for losing my loved ones, and I was also grateful to Su Lan for saving me face.

Because I have already learned from the maid that my father said in front of Su Lan that I am not smart by nature, but I want to be perfect, and I am especially concerned about the opinions of others. I will force myself to do it, so my life is very tiring.It was better in her natal family in the early years, but after Gao married into Su's family, it became more serious.He even did not hesitate to wrong himself to fulfill his virtuous reputation.At first they just thought that I would embarrass them by doing this, but then they gradually realized that the reason why I became like this was also caused by them, and it was also to not embarrass my mother's family.For this reason, my father felt ashamed of me and asked Su Lan to treat me well.And Su Lan also agreed, and even said in front of her father that she has really wronged me these years, and she will treat you well in the future, and punish the concubine Ji.

I thought Su Lan was just comforting his father, but I didn't expect him to come to the truth.

I cried: "Master Hou doesn't have to do this, I am willing to take a concubine for Lord Hou, and I didn't force myself. I just want to prove that I am a virtuous person... I am not a smart person. I still have to ask Master Hou to mention something, and Master Hou needs to personally handle human relations. Even if you discipline concubines and raise children, you must come in person. I am useless, and only virtuous and virtuous are left... There is such a stupid His wife, the Marquis must be helpless."

Su Lan said bluntly: "In the early years, I really felt this way. However, it is also thanks to your lack of intelligence, otherwise how could there be peace in the house today, with children around your knees?"

I was stunned, and then wept even more fiercely.

In fact, I really don't deserve his evaluation.

When my child was ten years old, Su Lan wrote to the imperial court to make the eldest son the eldest son.At that time, the concubine, the eldest son, and the third concubine had all married wives and had children, and the husband gave them some money and divided them out.And threatened that all concubines would move out once they got married.He will not favor any concubine, regardless of ability or not, each concubine will only give [-] taels of silver and a house with three entrances.It is of course a good thing to be willing to work for the direct branch, and he will not force those who do not want to work for the direct branch, but they are not allowed to oppose the direct branch.

Then the husband said to his son: "One hero has three gangs. If a family wants to continue to develop, brothers must work together and twist their shares into a rope. If your concubine brothers are capable and loyal to you, you can use them with confidence. Their corresponding rights and respect, you don’t have to worry about them not listening to your orders. If you are insecure, don’t be relentless, you can clean up as you like. Security is incapable, you just need to take care of it properly. You need to know, The emperor also has three poor relatives, and you have to be careful when dealing with poor relatives. Your mother has done a good job, so you should learn more from your mother."

I was stunned, and couldn't help crying.

Sister Yun is my only daughter-in-law, and she is also the princess personally appointed by the Holy Majesty. Sister Yun and Empress Ji were bestowed a marriage by the Holy Majesty and married to the son of Zhen Guohou.

The husband educated Sister Yun: "Marry to Xiao's family, learn more from your mother, serve uncle, love uncle, and unite with neighbors. Don't be willful."

I didn't expect that I, who was not outstanding and always made mistakes, could still be affirmed by my husband.I couldn't help crying again.

But my husband's next sentence made me cry even harder.

Faced with whether to take a concubine for my son-in-law, the husband actually said: "You don't need to learn from your mother. You just need to understand that the greatest advantage of a woman is virtuousness. Then, virtuousness will one day be used by others to restrain her. arms."

I was stunned, savoring these words carefully, and suddenly burst into tears.

The year before last, my mother said similar things to me, and my sister-in-law also said about me, but I always couldn't listen.Now, when my husband said these words, I couldn't help but feel heartbroken.

In private, I asked my husband: "Since Lord Hou knows that a woman's virtuousness may become a shackle, why didn't you stop me?"

But the husband asked back: "Then did I force you to be virtuous?"

I was stunned for a moment, recalling that every time my husband took concubines over the years, most of them were offered by her, and my husband accepted them passively.It is true that her husband never persecuted her, nor bound her with virtuousness.

But, but, he didn't reject her virtuousness, did he?
But the husband said: "The virtuousness offered to your door is like fat meat delivered to your mouth. Why should I refuse?"

I was speechless for a moment.

The husband said again: "Actually, if you don't hand the fat to my mouth, I won't eat it on purpose. But you have already handed it to my mouth, how can I refuse? It's like a person who is naturally greedy for money. But you used treasures to lure him, and the outcome can be imagined."

I wept and said, "Your Majesty means that if I don't give you a concubine, you won't say anything. Is that what you mean?"

"Yes."

I don't know whether to cry or laugh.She has been virtuous for half her life, but in the end, it ended like this.

The husband said again: "Over the years, you have been working hard to be my good wife, and I have noticed it. I also know that you want to be perfect, but you always end up with things that are not what you want. Actually, it's not necessary, but Every person always has advantages and disadvantages. Your disadvantage is that you care too much about what others think of you, so that you live a more tiring life than anyone else. Although you are not smart enough, you never pretend to be smart. This is also your advantage. Over the years , It’s also a hard work for you. There are so many aunts and concubine children in the family, you can treat them equally, and you can maintain the peace of the back house, Madam has contributed a lot."

I tugged at the corners of my lips and cried even harder.

In fact, I also have times of jealousy, but he let me not have the chance to attack.

Because, Su Lan mercilessly extinguished any concubine's room that had taken the lead.

There are also concubines who want to show their prestige in front of me, and without my help, Su Lan can make her less prestige.

Although I regret that Su Lan has many concubines, I am also grateful for the respect he has given me.

My husband trusts me so much, how can I live up to his trust?
So in these years, I have never been harsh on concubines, nor have I been harsh on concubines and concubines.

This is also my husband's respect for me in return.

Unexpectedly, in the eyes of my husband, this is actually my advantage.

My husband handed me a hand, held me in his arms, patted my shoulder lightly, and said: "Ah Wu, I have never been a good husband, and you are the only one who can always tolerate me. Always treat me the same When I was sick, you could still take good care of me, Ah Wu, thank you for your tolerance."

I cried even harder, my hands were soaked in no time, I threw myself into his arms, sobbing loudly: "I am not a good wife either, and I have done many, many bad things over the years. "Actually, I also had dark moments. When I lost my son one after another, I also thought about cheating the eldest son to death.When I learned that my husband, who was about to turn [-], was still in love with Gu Wu, my face was also contorted.I also troubled Gu Wu, but Gu Wu stopped me with a few words.

Facing my questioning and ridicule, Gu Wu was silent for a while, and then said: "Sister, I understand your feelings. But I can give my sister a piece of advice. Take a step back, think about it, and your heart will open up. If my sister is determined Going to drill that narrow and dark dead end, the end result is that my sister is crying, the new couple is laughing, and the men are still hugging left and right. But I, with a husband and son, everything is fine."

I'm not an eloquent person. I know what she said doesn't make sense, but I just can't find words to refute it.He could only pant heavily and stare at her.

Gu Wu was not affected by me, and said indifferently: "Sister really shouldn't have told me these things, you know exactly how Su Liu and I divorced. If you say that, I won't feel sorry, but will be proud instead. It turns out that he, Su Liu Six also has today. I can be considered elated."

I was so angry that my chest was going to explode, I wanted to scratch her face, how could there be such a shameless person in this world?
But Gu Wu didn't give me a chance to get angry, suddenly she put on a serious face, put down the teacup heavily, the heavy sound hit my heart, and pulled back my reason, I realized that I did another stupid thing.

　There are not many people like Fang in reality?
　　Many women always do things that only touch themselves without knowing it.

　　
　
(End of this chapter)